Avoid These Common Dating Errors

Too many first dates lately? Can't quite figure out why you can't meet a nice girl and move on to a second date? Let's take a look at some of things you might be doing which could be causing you to bomb out. Here are five common errors to pass up. Avoid these and you can really improve your chances of landing that second date.

1. Don't try to buy love. The first date is simply a chance to get to know someone, see if there is chemistry, and find common interests. If you put out a lot of cash, or push the maximum on your credit limit, there's no getting that money back. And, the first date is really about compatibility, not about showing off. If you impress a young lady with your fancy purchases, you send the wrong message. And if she is impressed by the money you are spending, you will have attracted her for all of the wrong reasons. She'll be in love with your money, and expecting you to keep it up. If you can't keep it up, she'll look elsewhere for someone who can. If you are looking for the real thing, this is not the way to find it.

2. Don' talk about other women. There are many things to talk about on a first date, but steer clear of stories or references to your ex, a recent date you had, your mother, or even your boss. Trust me; your date does not want to hear your impressions or judgements of other women, or the details of past relationships. On a first date, it doesn't matter if you are a man or a woman, none of us want to hear about other people - it's a time for the two of you to get to know each other and talk about fun, positive and interesting subjects. If you don't avoid this mistake, your date will wonder how long before she is the subject of your next story. And, under no circumstances, tell your new date the reasons you left your last girlfriend or your ex-wife.

3. Don't talk about sex. Are you just looking for a one-night stand? Are you wondering how kinky the conversation can get? Then, stop right now, I thought you were looking to create a second date. If you are, then simply do not discuss sex on the first date, and don't even think about going there physically. Which leads us to number 4.

4. Don't be too forward. A warm handshake with a pleasant smile is sufficient, or maybe a gentlemanly kiss on the cheek if she seems open to that. Do not go any further on a first date. You can show your attraction and interest in a much more dignified way, and that will be much more likely to lead to a second date. Take it slow. You will be glad that you did.

5. Don't be a fake. Just like on your resume, don't lie and embellish. Be proud of who you are and what you have to offer. If you try to be someone you are not, and the relationship develops, you will only end up in uncomfortable places later. Don't get yourself pulled out onto the dance floor; you will regret ever saying you loved to boogie.

Next time you are on a first date, side step these five date-killers. You may be well on your way to an awesome second date. And, after that you may be well on your way to so much more.