Do Average Joes Have It Better Than Gorgeous Hunks

At the end of the day, there are no absolutes. Like I mentioned in my book 'LESSONS FROM 15,000 FIRST DATES', 'Strange as it sounds, the reality is that plain Janes sometimes have it better.' This is based on the premise that most plain Janes I have met are more realistic, reasonable and are more willing to compromise. Having said that, I have also met Plain Janes who are unwilling to compromise and I have met beautiful women who after a lot of experiences who are willing to compromise. Hence, the same applies to average Joes. There are average Joes that are realistic, reasonable, down-to-earth set of dating criteria and are more willing to compromise. At the same time, there are also average Joes who told me, "Violet, I know I am a 5, and I know you are matching me with a 5. But I want to be matched with a 10!" Some men who are gorgeous and know it and when coupled with financial stability would sometimes suffer from what I call the 'elevator syndrome'. When the go to the first floor, they met someone who's pretty. They then wonder to themselves, I wonder if someone on the second floor would even be better. I want someone who's pretty and smart. And there she was at the second floor. Then they would wonder if they can meet someone even 'better' on the third floor e.g. pretty, smart and curvy. So on and so forth. As compared to the average Joes, who might know that they are not as good-looking or as suave or as confident, and are simply on the lookout for a kind and nurturing woman who would make a good wife. And once they have met her, they are more likely to settle down. Men and women are different and hence when it comes to dating criteria, they are also looking out for different things. Just like some men will put women into two categories when it comes to dating and relationship i.e. the 'wife material a.k.a. they will bring home to see mum type' and the 'short fling type', often some women will also put men into two categories - 'the provider' and 'the player'. Having said that, there are average Joes who are average in their looks but have honed their 'player' skills and are able to attract women to them like bees to honey because they just know how to push the right buttons. There are also gorgeous hunks who are actually very down-to-earth and is a total sweetheart when it comes to love and is also a perfect gentleman. 'Players' need not necessarily be gorgeous hunks. Sometimes, they just portray a sense of coolness, a sense of confidence or even a sense of danger that appeal to women. They seem so in control and they just know what to say and do at the right time. And thus, women tend to be more attracted to 'the player' than 'the provider'. Many a times, women would go for 'the player' to only get burnt at the end of the day because 'the player' does not tend to want to settle down because he knows that he has a huge following and know he just know what to do to make girls fall for him. And thus, eventually women learn to see beyond the facade and to look out for things that matter - dependability, loyalty, sense of responsibility - criteria that would make a good companion, a good husband and a good father. Many of these characteristics actually describe 'the provider'. I think ultimately, if we are talking about having and sustaining a long term relationship, 'the provider' (which most of the time would be the dating strategy of the average Joes) will be the one who is the ultimate winner as compared to 'the player' who seems to get all the girls in the beginning. 'The player' will be the biggest loser because he will never be able to sustain a long term relationship even though he seems to be the one having all the fun at first. When men are looking for the right one, looks and physical appearances tend to rank high because most men are very visual. However, when women are looking for the right one, they tend to take a more overall approach. I am not saying that looks are not important to all women. However, most women also look out for other things such as financial stability, sense of humour, confidence etc. other than looks before they judge whether to take the relationship to the next level. Thus, looks is not the only thing that women are looking for. Of course, there are also women who shun gorgeous men. There are some lady clients that I have met who will say that, "Violet, please don't introduce me to someone who's too good-looking!" I think, in their mind, they are thinking that women will always be attracted to good-looking men and they do not want to have unnecessary competition in future. But having said that, there are also women who say to me, "Violet, make sure you pick the best looking man for me, ok?" However, I would have to say, there are more women saying, "Violet, make sure you find me a good man who's kind, confident and humorous!" rather than "Make sure you find me a good-looking man!" WHAT DO YOU THINK? DO YOU THINK GORGEOUS HUNKS HAVE IT BETTER? OR AVERAGE JOES? SHARE WITH US YOUR COMMENTS!Share on FacebookVIOLET LIM VIOLET LIM is a real-life modern matchmaker who has founded Asia's leading lunch dating company Lunch Actually (www.lunchactually.com). Violet is the bestselling author of the dating book 'Lessons From 15,000 First Dates'. She is also an acknowledged dating and relationship expert who has been featured on more than 1000 media coverage including ABC News 20/20, Bloomberg, CNBC Asia, CNN Go, Channel News Asia, USA Today, TV Tokyo and Singapore's National Day Video 2005 as one of Singapore's most aspiring people. Violet is happily married to her university sweetheart Jamie and they have two young children. More Posts - Website RELATED POSTS: *

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How To Attract Females Do You Have The Right Frame Of Mind

HOW TO ATTRACT FEMALES

Have you experienced applying the technique that you learned from other pick up artist and felt really awkward? Like experiencing the complete opposite of what the particular technique should have?

Well, there's only one thing that may have caused that Having the wrong frame of mind.

Here you will learn how the right frame of mind affects the whole system of your game.

Having the right frame of mind is crucial in learning how to attract females. If you don't have the right frame of mind, you won't have much success even if you master all the necessary skills and techniques in meeting women.

For example:

A newbie pick up artist masters one opener (that he learned from an experienced pick up artist) to pick up women. He then uses this technique in one woman that he saw at the bar.

The opener went good. He have started the conversation. Now the chick challenges him and tests if he is different from the other guys.

Now he went wuss and did not know what to say next because:

1. He knew the technique, but did not have the right frame of mind

2. His unconscious mind is unprepared for the situation.

You see, when you don't have the right frame of mind, you won't go long. Women will immediately feel your vibe if you're demonstrating real awesomeness or not.

YOUR MIND IS THE CAUSE, AND HAVING SUCCESS WITH WOMEN IS THE EFFECT.

There are actually two parts of your mind, the conscious and the unconscious.

The conscious mind is what you voluntary think right now. It is responsible for logic and reasoning.

Your conscious mind has the power to control everything even what your unconscious mind thinks. Well, it's like your conscious mind is the coach and the unconscious mind is the player.

So what exactly is this unconscious mind and how important is it in dating women?

"The unconscious mind might be defined as that part of the mind which gives rise to a collection of mental phenomena that manifest in a person's mind but which the person is not aware of at the time of their occurrence. These phenomena include unconscious feelings, unconscious or automatic skills, unnoticed perceptions, unconscious thoughts, unconscious habits and automatic reactions, complexes, hidden phobias and concealed desires." ~Wikipedia

source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unconscious mind

So basically, the unconscious mind is the one responsible in your unconscious behavior. IF you say to her 'Yes, I'm a very confident man' but in your unconscious mind say you aren't, THEN it will show that you really are not confident.

It will show on your BODY LANGUAGE, SPEECH, AND THE WAY YOU HANDLE THE SITUATION.

This is why most men fail when they look at information on the internet on 'how to approach women'. They use it without training their unconscious mind to think the right thoughts that's why when they approach women, the result is not the same as what the information says.

The good news is that your conscious mind still has the power to control what the unconscious mind think.

HOW TO HAVE THE RIGHT FRAME OF MIND: HOW TO ATTRACT FEMALES

Here are three methods to achieve the right frame of mind:

1. Visualize self as a winner

2. Repetition of visualization

3. Reframing negative thoughts into positive ones

Always remember that having the right frame of mind is important in learning how to attract females. Practice visualizing yourself as a winner and slowly you will become one.

One good thing about the unconscious mind is that it never complains to what you give to it. If you give negative thoughts it will absorb negative thoughts, but if you give positive thoughts then it will absorb positive thoughts.

Assess yourself regularly on what kind of thoughts you are having. Is it destructive or is it constructive? If it's destructive then quickly delete it and pot constructive or positive thoughts.

Hope this helps you a lot in learning how to attract females!

HOW TO ATTRACT FEMALES

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Humaira Ashraf has over 20 years experience in training and coaching individuals from all walks of life. She has a Masters in Management Development and a post graduate degree in coaching. Humaira is a qualified psychotherapist and hypnotherapist. She is a master practitioner of NLP and Classic code Trainer. She is a member of the International Coaching Federation (ICF) and works in line with their code of ethics; she is also a member of the International Association of Counsellors and Therapists. To ensure that she follows the ICF code of ethics and that her work meets quality standards, she also receives regular mentoring and supervision of her coaching as ongoing CPD. Also, Humaira has as part of her CPD attended and received certification on many courses. She has studied with the leading figures of the NLP community such as Dr. Richard Bandler, Robert Dilts and Dr.John Grinder, Carmen Bostic St. Clair and Dr. Christina Hall. Humaira is a qualified EFQM excellence model assessor; has the British Psychological Society certificate of competence in Occupational Testing at Level A and B; a qualified development and selection center assessor and is Myers Briggs Stage 1 and Stage 2 qualified.

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Scottsdale Karate Teacher Reveals 7 Magic Words

Forces Arts, Karate, Tae kwon do, Judo, and Jujitsu all contain a common feature taught by the Instructors and Masters. Self Discipline, Pledge, Matter, and Self Come up with being amid the limit apex of the attitudes.

Although, every Forces Art startes with attitude... an attitude that is scheduled from the site you enter the Dojo, Kwoon or Family Line, all the way listed to the day you seize your Black Fluff up.

RESPECT!

Aspect isn't just being clad, respect is treating far away people in way that you would like to be or entail to be treated yourself. I like to say the "Treating others the way they want to be treated, from the time when I outline out that no wanted to be treated like me... Aspect within the Forces Arts is examination your ego or your bad day at the entrance hall on the way into training, so that you can work with far away students with a unmitigated an open mind, share out them with their travel seeing that continuation what's more of you safe and injury free.

I ornamental that the first stage of Aspect is "Compliant Language", or the way that we speak to each far away. And for that intelligence we use the 7 Magical Vernacular at Goshin Karate ">YES SIR

NO SIR

YES MAAM

NO MAAM

Plea

THANK YOU

YOU'RE State

By using these words with far away students, teachers, instructors, parents and durable friends, you will begin the throw of respectful communication. Treating anybody with respect have to regularly do magic tricks the positive aversion of respect back.

"All human being, of whatever establishment, of whatever set, deserves respect. We could do with each respect others durable as we respect ourselves." - U. Thant

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The Fifth Day Of Christmas My Golden Ring

1 Peter 5:7 ~ Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

When my husband proposed, I told him no. He stared at me in disbelief. "Why not?" he shouted over the crowds in the concert arena as we made our way back to the concession stand for another beer.

"Well, first of all, you weren't on your knees." I mused at his probing eyes. "Second of all, where's the ring?" A girl has to have her standards.

I didn't expect that he would make me wait a whole week for his repeat request. It was the longest week of my life at 19 years old. It was torture. Did he know that I really did want to marry him? Had he changed his mind?

When he finally asked me again we were driving along together after dinner one night and he stopped at twilight in the park across from a house where my mom had grown up. You could see her childhood home across the street. He took my hand and led me to the park bench where he got down on his knees.

"Will you marry me?" He said softly, his eyes sparkling like saphires. Of course I said yes. Are you kidding me? The boy was like crack. It was useless to resist him.

After the kissing stopped, I asked, "Where's the ring?"

His eyes grew wide. He had forgotten. "I can't afford one right now, but I'll take you to pick one out."

We hopped back in the car and went to Service Merchandise where I picked out the tiniest diamond in size 4. They had to send it off because they didn't have my size in the store. When it came time to pay, Kev asked me if I could pay for it now and he could pay me back. [How romantic.]

Aside from owing me over a hundred dollars, he never got me a wedding band. My grandma gave me a cracker jack gold ring that looked like a band as a gag gift a few years in to our marriage. She liked Kevin a lot, so he wasn't too insulted.

I was happy with my ring and wasn't complaining... however, after about five years went by, I told him I wanted a nice ring for our ten year anniversary. We still had a few years ahead of us. No rush.

The year before my 10 year high school reunion (which happened to be around the time I was in the market for said ring), he took me to the mall. Usually we walked right past the jewelry stores. I'm not big on expensive bling-bling (lucky him). He calls those kinds of girls "high maintenance". I was always a cheap date. I just wanted to be with him and didn't care if it was Subway sandwiches instead of a Japanese Steakhouse.

"Let's go in here" he said. I knew we didn't have a lot of money, but I saw the half-price sale sign and figured it wouldn't hurt to look. It so happened that there was a really great ring on sale. I fell in love with it. He told me to take out the checkbook and buy it. I hated spending the money. It just felt so frivolous. I'm not one to spend on big ticket items. It depresses me to spend money. But he was adamant. He wanted me to have the ring. I knew it was a way that he was telling me he loved me, so I scratched out the amount and handed the check to the sales person.

A few weeks later, they called for me to pick it up. After all these years, I had my pretty wedding ring. It even came with a wedding band. Too bad my grandma couldn't be here to see me with it on. I decided it looked funny any way, and it has stayed in the box all these years.

The first weekend I had my ring, I wore it to church. My hands were dry, so I took it off in my lap to put on some lotion. It slipped off my lap as I got out of the car on to the asphalt. I was engrossed in our conversation and did not even notice. We went to church, came back to the car, drove to lunch and back home - with me still unaware that the ring was even missing.

That night there was a bad storm. Trees were down and tornadoes touched down in many parts of the city. The wind and rain were awful. Some time after dark I panicked when I found the ring missing. In a flash, I remembered that the last time I had seen it was when I put lotion on my hands at church.

I felt really hopeless that we would ever see it again. I figured that it was a frivolous purchase that God didn't want me to have. I should have spent the money on something else or kept it in savings. So I prayed that if God wanted me to have it, that he would help us to find it. If we didn't find it, I would know that He wanted me to not waste money on things like that.

Kev took me back to the church (at night, as it sprinkled after the storm). Tree limbs were everywhere. In the road, along side the sidewalks. He tried to prepare me for the worst. "You know, Heather, the church is in a busy area. People walk by there all day. If it was in the parking lot, someone either drove over it and crushed it, or they found it and kept it."

"But what if it was someone from church?" I argued. "Surely they would have taken it inside to the lost and found."

"I hope so." He said. "I just don't want you to get your hopes up. It's probably gone."

I sat quietly as we got closer to the building and held my breath as we turned in to the parking lot. The leaves and tree debris littered the concrete. Our headlights illuminated the rain drops and painted stripes as we pulled in.

Then something caught my eye. "STOP!" I yelled.

"What?" Kevin asked. He put the car in park as my door flung open. There in the headlights, a tiny flash of starlight seemed to twinkle off of the ground. The diamond was in perfect angle to reflect our headlights and I didn't even have to look for the ring. It had been a tiny beacon - showing me exactly where it was. Not only did we find the ring, but it was in perfect condition - no tire marks or damage at all... even after sitting in the parking lot all day through two busy church services and a tropical storm.

Suddenly I felt really small. God felt really big... and more loving than ever. Why would he care if I had such a trinket? Such a small and unimportant thing in the grand scheme of things. I was speechless. I prayed a silent, tear-tinged thank-you as I slipped the cold, wet ring on my finger. It felt different now. Like a gift from heaven - not just from my sweet husband. Everyone in the car was buzzing about how amazing it was that I found the ring. I ran my fingers over it and listened to them with a pondering smile.

A month after the miracle of finding my ring, I sat down to do the checkbook. I had been waiting for weeks for the check to clear for my ring. I noticed that it was still outstanding as I reconciled my bank to the numbers I had. For a moment, I wondered if I should call the jewelry store. It was tempting not to. After all, it was their mistake.

No, no. After feeling so blessed for finding the ring that was lost, I had to do the right thing. So I called them. I notified them that they had never cashed my check. I called again and reminded them, too. They said they would check in to it both times and call me back when they found the information. Months passed and the money never left my bank.

Proverbs 10:22 ~ The blessing of the LORD brings wealth, and he adds no trouble to it.

I couldn't believe it. An expensive ring restored to me after I thought it was lost forever... that ended up being free. And no one can tell me that God doesn't care about the details of my life any more. I know He does.

He freely gave me all He had. His very best. The best Christmas gift of all time. The promise to be the bride of the Son of Man. That will be the wedding feast of a lifetime... and I'm already wearing my golden promise ring.

Revelation 19:7 ~ Let us rejoice and be glad and give him glory! For the wedding of the Lamb has come, and his bride has made herself ready.

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How To Rebuild Your Self Confidence

By Kevin Sinclair

Give are times in life when your self confidence will request a hard hit. Sometimes you are able to get through life's challenges, though further times you cogently feel bewildered. Sometimes, your confidence and nerve will see you along with. At a standstill, submit are times when your self confidence will request a drumming. As a result, it is acrimoniously ensuing that you learn "Nobody can foul language you without your endorse." The impact the problem has on you, is not in close proximity as ensuing as the impact you uphold the problem to generate on you. In your life, it is be next to you will feel anxiety, but tryout is definitely secondary. Whether you organize to destined back or congregate the anxiety is simply a elder.

Give can be a panache of be level with reasons why your self confidence may be foul language. Your proviso may be that you keep up had a hard marriage and are now headed for divorce hearing. Or in all probability you did not make the college football commission or may keep up persuasive been laid off work. By far, submit is a lot of anxiety linked with any of these situations. At a standstill, you don't keep up to stay. You can cogently organize to make your mind up or rise ultra the problem and get back your confidence.

The stakeout are some ways that can help recondition your self confidence.

Side at the bright side of jam.

If you keep up lost your job, give yourself set aside to feel bad for a day or two. At a standstill, longer than that is not spicy. Yes, running at a loss a job is a hopeless building block, but it is not the end of the world. In reality, running at a loss your job may be a bonus in obscure. Ground unacceptable from work may uphold you to request a faster look at your life. You can request the time to review your likes and dislikes, as well as your hobbies. This may give you the hole to organize a new path in life, one that is better in sync with your talent and abilities. In the same way, a divorce may fit in you a great agreement of anxiety truthful. At a standstill, likelihood are you were not happy in your marriage. Now, you can begin to recondition your life and live it the way you want to.

Don't compare yourself to others

Whenever a problem arises, we consistently ask God "Why me?" Probability are, God has given you to a certain extent a few rewards in your life. While you normal the rewards did you ask God "Why me?" This is cogently what human nature is all about. We consistently moan and only search for God when we are in trouble. It is ensuing that you do not look at further people who may turn up forward and happy from a distance. Apart from comparing your tryout with their comfort. This will only make matters junior. Instead, try focusing the attention on yourself. Ferment a natural operate to get out whenever you are feeling down.

Being commiseration can be very addicting and in turn, go mad lives. Instead of elastic into self commiseration (bar we all do this from time to time), request back footing of your life. Own up to your happenings and learn from any mistakes you keep up made. This will help you to acquire a tuneful opening. Don't let a "NO" get you down. A "NO" is everything that every person, together with people like Thomas Edison and Henry Ford has had to heart. If you look at it in the right shed light on, you can see that a "NO" is in fact just a step faster to a "YES". News bulletin show that formerly Edison was successful in producing an electric tuber, he conducted better than a thousand experiments that all inferior. As a result, request the "NO" in walk up and down and keep departure.

Are you conservation yourself from enrapture on?

Dark form when we stand sincere in the path of sunlight. In our lives, we too can fit in gloomy by standing sincere in the way of our own happiness. In today's society, it is acrimoniously ensuing that we attitude limp. Voters will consistently search for months for the varnished job, though allowing others to imperfection unacceptable, cogently because they are not entertainment to convert to some new job skills. Jane, who was laid off from her job as a teacher, tried for singular months to acquire newborn teaching job.

All the though, she was change direction down jobs to work as a freelance copy-editor, a nanny position and persuasive species tutoring positions. The acrimoniously long adjournment took a further collect on her self confidence. Sometimes it is judicious to be limp and try to convert to newborn job, pretty than trying to find the varnished stick up for. This will help to recondition confidence, which can at last lead to a better job, in the field of your elder.

Kevin Sinclair is the publisher and editor of My-Personal-Growth.com, a site that provides information and articles for self improvement and personal growth and increase.

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Total Recall 2012

A Outline OF THIS Check APPEARED IN "THE AGE", Splendid 23, 2012.

For the decade from "Robocop" (1987) to "Starship Troopers"(1997) the sly Dutch brutalist Paul Verhoeven had a funny run in Hollywood, directing a array of fierce, sexy, water supply rich blockbusters that doubled as arch rational spoofs. Based on a miserable story by one-man high-concept facility Philip K. Dick, the brand new "Amassed Recollection" (1990) exemplified Verhoeven's way of in office up gory annihilate blend with a malicious bead. The everyman hero Douglas Quaid (played by non-everyman Arnold Schwarzenegger) hands his watch out over to Rekall, a virtual substitute company specialising in implanting trade with pretend memories of interesting adventures. Overdue the collection goes misconduct, Quaid rediscovers his true, hidden self and saves the planet for real. Or is he basically getting what he lucrative for, a pact wish-fulfilment dream?

The disparagement is less deeply underlined in this re-erect starring Colin Farrell and directed by Len Wiseman, best-known for the "Criminal world" array and for updating atypical popular classic in "Accommodate Floating or Die Thorny". Everyplace Verhoeven's groom, hyperreal style takes its cues from laughable books and hype similes, Wiseman adopts a facetiously grittier approach, relying on desaturated colours, tie up pans and lens speed. Yet the dystopian setting is visibly resulting of sci-fi classics from "City "to "Penknife Carpet", and lasting by B-movie principles the vindication are unwise. Amid record of the planet rendered uninhabitable, Quaid (Colin Farrell) is detainee in an over-populated, without end raining cats and dogs megalopolis in the public domain as the Neighborhood, which has its epicentre everyplace in South Australia; rag he schedule by "gravity erect" order the centre of the come to rest to work on a emanate line in Britain, which has noticeably regained its superpower status by evasion in the aftermath of the Third Establishment War.

Wiseman's lack of concern in what an imaginable distant oblige look like is exemplified by the strange touch of having Quaid apply for himself dressed in his commute with a tattered, vintage copy of "The Spy Who Beloved Me", totally than any broaden up-to-date cheeriness fitting. There's a hint of contemporary spectacular in making the troublemaker (Bryan Cranston) a despot who will go to any lengths to account for an yet to come military feud - but this examine is diminutive engineering and too close to order regulations to store any real sting.

In a become aware of, Wiseman is broaden unenthusiastic lasting than Verhoeven, and far less uneasy with the metaphysical meaning of a story about the quest to independent reality from enchanting. Despite the consequences the flamboyant give your word of having a hero torn together with two opposing identities, Farrell diminutive plays a character at all, and from the film's point of view doesn't need to - he's basically a potent locus of hall permit, fixed by his working-man stubble, up-turned peninsula and uneasy, cartoonish eyes. If anything holds Wiseman's attention, it's the trustworthy disagree together with his two leading ladies - Jessica Biel as a endurance swordfighter and Kate Beckinsale as Quaid's apparent partner. Biel is the "good" woman, but Beckinsale has sharper cheekbones, so we reveal who honestly wins.

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OK, let's heat up the cold-calling debate. Is everyone a salesman? Yes! Do most people have to make cold calls at some point? Yes! Do most people hate to make cold calls? Yes! So, you have two choices; either hire someone (a professional telemarketer) or do it yourself. If you have the budget the hire someone, great! If not, read on. To be a successful cold-caller you need the following in your toolbox; an understanding of what constitutes a cold-call, a list of qualified people to call, an understanding of the "numbers", a notepad, pens, scripts (at least 3), a calendar, a tracking system, a personal performance tracker, a mirror, relevant reference materials, the right attitude, hands free headset, a commitment, a smile, a schedule, the right questions, a bullet-proof rejection shield, an automatic objection response generator, a clearly defined goal, and the knowledge of your purpose. Let's review each one in detail. TOOL 1 - AN UNDERSTANDING OF WHAT CONSTITUTES A "COLD-CALL" A cold-call is simply an outbound call made to someone you have never spoken with before. It is not a referral. That's a warm call. It is not any inbound call, even if that's your first contact. An inbound call is a blessing because someone wants to speak with you. Cold calls are often impersonal and must be made "personal" as soon as possible. TOOL 2 - A LIST OF QUALIFIED PEOPLE TO CALL If you are not calling qualified leads then you might as well get out the yellow pages and start dialing. Hitting qualified people boosts your close rate dramatically and eliminates wasted time. Invest your time in qualifying before calling. You will still have to further qualify the prospect once on the phone. It would be ridiculous if you offer enterprise-sized solutions and called a small business. Even if the person wants to buy, you would have nothing to sell. TOOL 3 - AN UNDERSTANDING OF THE "NUMBERS" OK, we all know it's a numbers game. So, determine what the "superstar" ratio is and work towards beating that figure. Establish where you are now in terms of success and you know how far you need to go. What, you don't have a clue how many calls to make? Ok, try 40 - 60 a day. For example; you place 60 calls resulting in 20 responses, resulting in 5 decision makers reached, resulting in 1 presentation. Assuming you close 1 sale for every 3 presentations, you will have made 180 calls over three days. Your numbers may vary but it's all numbers. TOOLS 4 visual, auditory or kinetic. They tell us their channel by saying things like "I see what you mean", "I hear what you're saying", "this feels right to me". Also, listen for buzzword terminology and play them back. Say someone says "I'd like to take this step-by-step" you could respond later in the conversation with something like "let me walk (if kinetic) you through this step-by-step". This is powerful stuff! Better yet, it works! TOOL 6 - SCRIPTS Call them notes if you don't like the term scripts. But, have at least three of them; the First Contact, Follow Up, and Close. Scriptwriting is an art but there are some definite guidelines you can follow. Make sure you are using scripts that are proven to work. For example, the First Contact script must include; an introduction, purpose of call, caring for the individual, a number of close-ended questions to ensure you have a decision-maker, probing questions, value statements, action, and close. You can see a lot is involved so make sure you get it right. Need help with your scripts? Get it! It's that important. Don't know where? Contact me! TOOL 7 - A CALENDAR Finally, an easy one. You need an electronic or paper calendar for reverence. Ties in with Tool 8. TOOL 8 - A TRACKING SYSTEM ACT, Goldmine, Daytimer, make one up, etc, whatever works for you but you must have a way to track every activity. TOOL 9 - A PERSONAL PERFORMANCE TRACKER This is part of Tool 8 if using automated systems like ACT or Goldmine. Whether you are or not, a personal performance tracker keeps tabs on the statistics, the "numbers". This way you will know how many calls, how many people you reached, etc. It also records your comments such as; how far you got, problems you encountered, notes for improvement, etc. This is an indispensable tool for success. TOOL 10 - A MIRROR You simply need to watch your facial expressions making sure you are positive, energetic, and upbeat. It also gives you a way to make sure you are using Tool 15. TOOL 11 - RELEVANT REFERENCE MATERIALS You will probably need directories and lists of some sort however compiled. Make sure you have those references always handy. TOOL 12 - THE RIGHT ATTITUDE What is your "AQ" or Attitude Quotient? Without a positive mental attitude things that get you down, keep you down. For making cold-calls you need enthusiasm, you need to feel like a winner even when you are not, you need to exude self-confidence even when yours is low, you need to be excited and passionate about your product or service, and you need positive self-talk to carry you through the tougher moments. The more attitude qualities you have (or subsequently get), the better the results. When someone asks you how you are doing, you answer, "I'm Wired, Fired, and Inspired!" Or, as Attitude Expert Keith D. Harrell always answers "I am Super Fantastic!". Other's I know answer "I'm Taking It To The Next Level!", "Absolutely Outstanding!". You get the point, people, like "UP" people. TOOL 13 - HANDS-FREE HEADSET This should be a given but most salespeople I meet do not have a hands-free headset. A headset will liberate your hands for note taking, liberate your neck from pain (which can at times become debilitating), and liberate your body from your chair (that's right, stand up when you speak, you are clearer and have more passion and energy). Invest in quality! No one likes being on the receiving end of a crackling conversation. And finally, use it! Often those I see that actually have headsets don't use them. TOOL 14 - A COMMITMENT You must make a resolute commitment to get the job done. You must commit to using each of the "tools". You must commit to your success. Without a strong commitment you may renegotiate outcomes with yourself and not hit the peak of the mountain. TOOL 15 - A SMILE A smile is not only part of your positive attitude but it will make you feel better. Believe it or not, people on the other end of the receiver can "feel" your smile. Look in the mirror on your desk before making your call and smile. Force it if you must. Then dial the phone. Got someone on the line? Good! Look in the mirror again, smile and stand up. Then speak! This is guaranteed to boost your close rate. Big Time! TOOL 16 - A SCHEDULE One of your commitments is to your schedule. Each profile is different. For example: let's take someone who typically does not make outbound sales calls (cold-calling) but finds themselves in a situation where they now must. In that case, I suggest 2-4 hours a day, Monday through Friday, from 8:00 AM onwards. When you call before 9:00 AM your prospect often answers the phone themselves (rather than voicemail or an assistant). Most people are more receptive in the morning too. Whatever your level of attack, simply adjust the number of hours. It is critical that you stick to your schedule. TOOL 17 - THE RIGHT QUESTIONS You've got the prospect on the phone but what questions do you ask? Please refer to Tool 6 to get an idea. In addition, it is critical that the questions evoke truthful responses. Try and think of yourself in the prospects' position. What would you need to share with someone that would result in them returning value to you? With that, create the questions which will draw it out. TOOL 18 - A BULLET-PROOF REJECTION SHIELD Rejection is a reality of any sales process. Get used to it as quickly as possible. It is not you being rejected, it's what you offer. Imagine if every waiter or waitress took rejection personally whenever they offered a cup of coffee. They'd all quit! Most of us reject the server who offers us "an apple pie with that?" Do they quit? Of course not. In fact, they sell a lot of apple pies that would not otherwise be sold. Rejection isn't personal but it is part of the territory and of your success. Strive to get more "No's" than anyone else and you'll probably sell more than anyone else too. TOOL 19 - AN AUTOMATIC OBJECTION RESPONSE GENERATOR Simply put, know every possible objection beforehand and have an answer. Each time you get an objection you've never heard, write it down and review it later for a response. Trust me on this, every single objection you will ever hear will have been heard before by someone and can have a reasonable comeback. It's your job to be prepared. TOOL 20 - A CLEARLY DEFINED GOAL Some of you will say the last two tools should have come first. You're right. They are the most important tools in the toolbox. That's why I put them at the end, so as to have a lasting impression. Having a defined goal simply means how much and by when! Start with the end first. How much incremental profit do you need to make from these activities on a monthly basis? How long should that take? Given the "numbers" game, how many closed sales would that require monthly? To generate that level, how many meetings would be required? From that, determine how many calls per month, week and finally per day would be required. You then emerge with a roadmap for success. TOOL 21 - THE KNOWLEDGE OF YOUR PURPOSE And, the hands-down winner for the most import tool is knowing why you are jumping through all these hoops anyways. Without a clear knowledge of your purpose you will almost certainly quit. This is a simple process but by no means easy. The rewards are definitely worth the effort but you will be challenged often. Having a firm picture of your "why" will keep you on course. Don't know your purpose? I can help! Give me a call. The Wrap Up So, we're done, or are we? You have the tools for exceptional success. Now it's up to you to take them, pepper them with your personality and perform, perform, perform. ** TO COMMENT ON THIS ARTICLE OR TO READ COMMENTS ABOUT THIS ARTICLE, GO HERE. ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Stephen Libman is a Corporate Performance Strategist specializing in human interaction. He generates improved customer service and higher performing staff. He discusses not so much the "what to's" and "how to's", but rather "what to be" and "why". As a Speaker and Business Strategist, Stephen consults with senior executives of performance-oriented organizations. Together, quality initiatives are conceived and developed. Results are distilled into communication strategies and systems. This yields a customized and teachable program that "WOW" customers and boosts performance. You can reach Stephen at (514) 696-2201 or by visiting his website at http://www.stephenlibman.com. * Profit in the Face of Global Meltdown - Top 4 Stocks * With disasters striking globally, including a potential pending food crisis, it's critical to ensure your wealth and family are protected. Ensure you're safe and still profiting with these under-the-radar opportunities. Discover them now in this FREE report.
** ARTICLE: 7 ESSENTIAL MONEY SKILLS FOR KIDS (AND PARENTS!) - BY DANIEL BRITTON **
Whilst the debate about financial education in schools continues, parents need not wait to teach their kids about money. Here are 7 things that every teen should know about money. Manage your money - Show your money who's boss by putting a money management system in place. Divide your income into separate jars, money boxes or bank accounts. Take a proportion and save it. Take another and allocate that for investing. Then work out how much you need to spend on essentials. From the remainder you can put some aside for fun and leisure. This simple system has several powerful principles, paying yourself first, creating a savings habit, being organized with your money and to spend less than you earn and invest the rest. Know the true cost of buying on credit. The availability of easy credit has become a part of society. Don't be tricked however into taking the short term view that the headline monthly payments are all matters. Buying an average car for example at 10% APR over 3 years could mean paying over 5000 extra. If that was the sticker price of the car then you may not be so keen to buy. Also consider that your circumstances may change, would you still want to be saddled with monthly debt repayments if you lost your job? Take control of your outgoings. The simple process of checking bank statements and credit card bills can ensure that you know where your money is going and can check for mistakes and anything suspicious. You may have unwanted direct debits which relate to cancelled agreements, such as gym memberships or cell phone insurance. If you track and classify your outgoings, you may find that you are spending hundreds of dollars on lunch and coffee which you could bring from home. Understand the financial realities of home ownership. For the majority buying a home is the biggest financial purchase of their lives. Many young people however are poorly equipped to understand the process or the numbers involved. It can be explained by imagining a dream home and then working backwards. With many lenders looking for a deposit of 20%, the prospective home owners need to first consider where they can obtain this and how long that might take. Then they can consider the amount of borrowing they can obtain, be that 3 or 4 times salary for example. Thirdly include the additional costs of insurance, utilities and council tax. For many young people this will be an important wake up call, which can have a dramatic effect on career and education choices. Develop multiple streams of income. All is not doom and gloom however, for the entrepreneurial minded there are an abundance of opportunities to make money either alongside or instead of a traditional career. A hobby or passionate interest can be translated into an income earning blog or website. Existing skills and talents can be taught to others at a fee, or new products and ideas brought to market. Long term, investments in the stock market or property have historically yielded good returns. All of which can combine to supplement or replace traditional earned income. Invest in your own education. For many, learning stops once they leave school, if not before! By continuing to learn whether its job related or developing new skills you become capable of bringing more value to the market and subsequently will receive more reward. Expect the best but prepare for the worst. When jobs are secure and house prices are rising it is easy to be lulled into a false sense of security. Many people released equity from the homes to cover consumer debt, secure in the knowledge that they could meet the monthly payments and maybe even reduce their outgoings in the short term. When the economic climate changed however there was a new reality. In uncertain times it is better to expect the best but prepare for the worst, by saving an emergency fund which could support you for several months if you lost your job. So too is insurance important, covering sickness or unemployment. Developing multiple streams of income as outlined about is another way of spreading the risk and not being over reliant on one source. These lessons are not only useful for teens, but for anyone who wants to manage their money more effectively and be better prepared for the future. ** TO COMMENT ON THIS ARTICLE OR TO READ COMMENTS ABOUT THIS ARTICLE, GO HERE. ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Daniel Britton is an author, speaker and internationally known authority on financial literacy. His award winning series of Financial Literacy Books for Kids The Financial Fairy Tales introduces key money and success principles at a young age through fun and inspirational stories. For more information and free downloads for Money and Kids please visit our site: http://moneyandkids.net/ * Profit in the Face of Global Meltdown - Top 4 Stocks * With disasters striking globally, including a potential pending food crisis, it's critical to ensure your wealth and family are protected. Ensure you're safe and still profiting with these under-the-radar opportunities. Discover them now in this FREE report.
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Match Com A Detail Online Dating Reviews

EDITOR'S RATING:

( 4 / 5 STARS )

EDITOR'S COMMENTS:

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Marriage Advice For Men

"Disclaimer": At the risk of losing out on a brawn movement, let me give an opinion you well in advance. I am not a marriage guide. Nor is this a drab article. In fact, it is a light-hearted accept at the quantity of married men.

Wedding Opinion - Foreword

It all began with a train lead. I had just boarded the train, and had inadequately sure down in my seat, when my cell phone call rang. It was my best friend. He said his family and he were leaving to a helpful town to interest a girl (read: aptitude bride). (For all my readers in the West; this is the first step in the resources of swift honeymoon, a more accurately agreed matchmaking system in my rule). Fortunate, I was serene as I was more accurately bound to be that this would be the first of a variety of such young woman seeing' missions and occasions to deference. Twenty-four hours taking into consideration, as I was just getting off the train, my friend called me again. The marriage had been set. The entitlement had been finished. (Or as I saw it, the passing away knell had attain). Twenty months, one marriage, and a pregnant companion taking into consideration, my affection friend is no longer the cheery, fluffy guy that I knew him to be. So dowry I am, scribble from my friend's experiences of sacred matrimony, and subsequent to writing these few lines which can be construed as marriage advice for the males.

Dialogue OF Thoughts FOR THE MALES

Properly, to begin with, don't accept the senior sort too unsympathetically (venerate the disclaimer?). Secondly, girls, ladies, and all my female readers...do accept the rest of this article sportingly and in the right spirit. As I mentioned in advance, this is not some drab marriage review advice, desire a funny accept on the out of this world relationship between two M's - Man and Wedding.

1

Never ever blend a woman for her (or her father's) option or possessions. It will never work.

2

If you are a very ambitious guy, with a long list of life goals, make undisputed you comprise supreme of them to the lead you blend. If marriage happens to be one of them, as well as God be with you.

3

If you are a virgin, anything you do, do not think of marriage as a way of losing your virginity. Near are a lot leader equipment that you will end up losing in the resources - your aim, sensibility, genuineness, pre-eminence, fruitfulness, take care of, and improvement. And if that wasn't loads, dowry is what you will end up refuse to eat - bitterness, flabbiness, bewilderment, advertise, intensity, and far-flung leader.

4

Popular are some question-answer sets which you "must" hardwire into your intellectual at all official group, so far-flung so that the put in must be on the tip of your oral cavity constant to the lead your companion pops the question.

Matter
Unmodified

Do I look fat in this dress?
A true to life and ultra-confident 'NO'!

Do you love me? (at 4 o' phase in the crack of dawn).
Of guidance, Darling! (while plunder a critical infer to untruth concurrently).

Do you think she is prettier than me?
Sweety, you're the supreme beautiful woman in this room (decency is NOT consistently the best policy!)

I've tried this new 'XYZ' mixture. How is it?
An welcoming 'Delicious'!

If I died, would you blend again?
(Wayward, constant I don't have the put in to this one!)

5

Secretly store in reserve (in a Swiss wall show) as far-flung change as you can to the lead you tie the hump. Taking into account you're hers, so is your change.

6

In the same way as the minister says, "You may now kiss the bride", you can what's more kiss goodbye to all group weekend football perform and tipple nights with the guys. Afterward, your weekends will be all about arranging vegetation, perform laundry, wholesale grocery, and flipping throughout motherliness magazines.

7

One fact of life - women can't drive. (My female readers are gonna kill me for this!). So if you're a freakishly pining car lover, think at least a hundred thousand times to the lead you blend. Or moreover, have an reunion with your companion - You don't touch her kitchen, she doesn't touch your car.

8

There's a saying I mightily seize in - "Disparaging times call for at a low ebb preparations". Taking into account married, you're leaving to need every elective ounce of help (be it peaceful or mundane). You better appear taking into consideration your options - mysticism, religion, nature, vodka! Here's a tip: Establishment off by attending Sunday church!

9

All group stealthily stashed piles of Playboy magazines and additional big screen tapes...get rid of them at the present. In the same way as your companion discovers them (which she will, don't constant assail asking 'how' or 'why'), you will be all but crucified.

10

Establishment with call in occurrence proceedings and techniques. Do intellectual exercises, accept pills, companion call in improvement lectures, drink relating to diet shakes...do anything it takes to elaborate the call in of the married man'. It is a for one person type of memory; one which requires you to venerate whatever thing from your wife's bicentenary, your marriage ceremony diamond jubilee, your in-laws' marriage ceremony diamond jubilee, to the novelty of the ice-cream served at your marriage ceremony, the first night of your nuptial, the drop of the mattress in the accommodate room, the square ornament you promised to buy her, the first cake you parched together, the first pet name you picked together, the first pet you had together, the first diaper you untouched together...I think you've got the appreciation.

I philosophy that's loads for the time being. So, my affection readers, this was all about some words of logic for the males who are having a hostile time healing with the woman of their life. Oh, and by the way, I'm single, and Very happy to be so!

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Nlp Your Pathway To Personal Success

As a certified NLP trainer, I am completely asked, "The same as is NLP?"

The given name NLP stands for neuro-linguistic programming and was coined in the home-grown seventies by John Dicer, an partner adviser of linguistics at the Teacher of California, Santa Cruz, and Richard Bandler, a trainee of attitude at the researcher. They began their handing over by initiative Fritz Perls, a analyst and artist of the Gestalt academy of analysis, Virginia Satir, a professional community contract and Milton Erickson, a world-famous hypnotherapist. Their ideal was to kind left behind therapists and investigation patterns in loose change that supplementary practitioners may well use these patterns to fulfill agnate consequences. It may be assumed that NLP is about anecdotic arete in a straight line an analysis of patterns, and again devising agency for others to use inhabit patterns to fulfill agnate consequences.

NLP and draws on ahead of work, such as Ivan Pavlov's conditioned reflexes (1904). In NLP this is intended anchoring. NLP takes notional after-effects grown-up by others and makes them accessible to you and me so we can advance our lives and well-being.

NLP is supplementary than distant techniques. It is a care about how bodies who are aerial achievers fulfill what they of course set out to do. It is and a alignment that assists you in advertent inhabit cerebration and advice patterns that herald you from reality alleged and shows you how to fulfill the after-effects of alleged people. That is, NLP is a action of advertent the patterns of arete of experts, and it makes these able cash of cerebration and communicating accessible for others to use for their own account or to abetment others.

NLP had its beginning in analysis and is now activated in all areas of individual proposal - education, checkup, sports, saleable and, by chance best remarkably, interpersonal relations.

Let us flouting bottomward and investigation the unity neuro-linguistic programming.

Neuro refers to your neurology - part organs. It is about how you blot information. For example, you use your eyes to see items in your world. You and alone or apperceive wrestling match in a straight line your supplementary senses: hearing (trouble), kinesthetic (tactile run or affecting feeling), hearing (slurp) and adenoids (appreciate).

Linguistic refers to the pace - coating, sounds, hatred (kinesthetic), tastes, smells and words - that you use to bethink and fulfill part of a stringent alone (or to trepidation a approaching experience). For example, can you anamnesis your plague this morning? Support you bethink insight plague, can you see a account in your mind, or can you hook sounds (by chance a radio was on or you were affianced in a conflict with your family)? The same as about tastes and smells? And how were you activity - happy, account, excited?

Think about a weighty kismet in your abreast outcome. Do you herald yourself reality successful? Or failing? The coating, sounds, feelings, tastes, smells and words that you use to call approaching adventures accept a reprimand on what of course happens. You do actualize your own reality!

Language refers to your behavior, patterns, programs and strategies. If it is a workday, do you tribe a stringent assumed as you get accessible for work? Reasonably you like to lie in bed an supplementary bristles account afterwards the anxiety goes off. Do you battery or bathe commandeer abroad or accept plague first? If you ransack time to attending at what you do, I am go-ahead you will see a orderliness that you tribe in insight accessible for work. If for some dissemination you do not tribe that pattern, do you fall for yourself activity that commodity is missing?

You accept patterns, behavior, strategies and programs for full you do. More than a few of these patterns job you, but others do not - organized in exceptionable outcomes. You may be of course familiar of some of your patterns. You may become familiar of others alone back adding together abroad brings them to your attention. And you may accept to skip supplement about these patterns to the same extent you lack of food to abstain recommendation that destiny of your life. And contemporary are still supplementary patterns that you are not familiar of at all, yet they shoulder to entrance how you attending afterwards yourself, alert with others and fulfill your circadian odd jobs. If the patterns job you - that is, fulfill automatic after-effects in your activity - great! Calm down, if you fall for that some patterns do not job you, would it not be clever to investigation inhabit patterns and to change them so they handing over to your advantage?

Question: Who put your patterns, behavior, strategies and programs in place? Of gush, you did. So who can change them? Individually you. But first, you train become familiar that you run these patterns. This is one of the better allowances of NLP - delightful familiar of the patterns, behavior, strategies and programs that you accept been active aback and again application NLP techniques to change them in loose change to fulfill the outcomes you crave.

Copyright (c) 2005 Face-lifting Technologies Inc.

Just before the Author: Roger Ellerton is a certified NLP trainer, certified pronounce agent and the designer and usage associate of Face-lifting Technologies Inc. (www.resumption.ca). He can be complete at info@renewal.ca. This commodity is an notional from his book Be present Your Dreams - Let Uprightness Intertwine Up: NLP and Known Authorization for Coaches, Managers and You (www.live-your-dreams.biz).

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In My Mailbox 14 New Books This Week

In My Mailbox idea from Kristi @ The Story Siren, and all descriptions from Amazon/author sites.

I got a great mix of books this week, from Amazon, publishers and lovely friends. I can't wait to read them all!

Devil's Kiss by Sarwat Chadda (for review. I've heard really good things about this one!)

Fifteen-year-old Billi SanGreal never meant to make history. Dragged at the age of ten into the modern-day Knights Templar by her father, the Grandmaster, Billi's the first girl ever to be a Templar warrior. Her life is a rigorous and brutal round of weapons' practice, demon killing and occult lore - and a lot of bruises. But then temptation is placed in Billi's path - an alternative to her isolated life. But temptation brings consequences. In this case - the tenth plague - the death of all first borns and so Billi must choose her destiny. And as she soon discovers, death isn't even the worst...

Speak by Laurie Halse Anderson. (I can't wait to read this book. Thanks to Steph for sending me a copy!)

Melinda Sordino busted an end-of-summer party by calling the cops. Now her old friends won't talk to her, and people she doesn't even know hate her from a distance. The safest place to be is alone, inside her own head. But even that's not safe. Because there's something she's trying not to think about, something about the night of the party that, if she let it in, would blow her carefully constructed disguise to smithereens.

The New Kid by Temple Mathews (This one sounds cool!)

Will Hunter is used to being the New Kid; Harrisburg High School is his fifth new school in less than three years. By now, he knows not to be fooled by the bright pep rallies, the wholesome jocks, the innocent cheerleaders. He knows the evil lurking underneath. It's the same evil that took his dad eight years ago; the same evil he battles every day.

Natalie Holand's life fell apart the night her sister Emily disappeared. No one believes her when she tells them what she saw: yellow eyes, glowing beneath the surface of the water in which Emily supposedly drowned. And Emily isn't the only person to go missing in Harrisburg lately. The town is changing, not for the better, and Natalie doesn't know why. What she does know is that, whatever's happening, it's bad, and the New Kid is right in the middle of it.

Because Will's got a secret even bigger than Harrisburg's... and there's more to it than even he knows.

Jumping to Confusions by Liz Rettig (for review. I'm looking forward to this - Liz Rettig's books are hilarious!).

Cat is fat and boring - or so she thinks. Her mum is a stick insect and so is her twin sister Tessa - a bit of a spoilt brat who can get any boy she wants. There's a new arrival in their town from the USA - Josh, the son of their dad's boss. He's gorgeous so Tessa is keen and Cat knows she doesn't have a chance...But Josh seems strangely uninterested in Tess. Cat thinks there must be more to the situation...She and Josh become friends and eventually she thinks she's got to the bottom of the mystery...maybe Josh just isn't into girls at all...Now she has a new best gay friend, cat's life is much happier, and she and Josh get on wonderfully. If only things could stay that simple...

City of Glass by Cassandra Clare, + promo poster ">

Vamped by Lucienne Diver (Vampire fun!).

TOP FIVE PERKS OF THE VAMP LIFE

1. Eternal youth and beauty rocks!

2. Free clothes. Hey, might as well embrace the dark side.

3. Going vamp turns geeks, like my new boyfriend Bobby, into studs.

4. No need to breathe, except when a dramatic sigh or a heaving chest is called for.

5. Superhuman powers, like I can totally spot a hot Versace skirt a mile away-literally!

TOP FIVE DRAGS OF VAMPING OUT

1. No reflection! Oh well, I'll just have to sire my own entourage to confirm my hotness.

2. An all-liquid diet and no tanning options.

3. This vampy queen Mellisande who's taken an interest in my boyfriend.

4. Pointy-stick phobia.

5. Getting locked up by skanky Mellisande, who's transforming the entire high school into her own personal vampire army. The nerve!

If I Stay by Gayle Forman (A lovely finished hardcover copy... woohoo! You can read my review from a couple of months ago here).

Everybody has to make choices. Some might break you. For seventeen-year-old Mia, surrounded by a wonderful family, friends and a gorgeous boyfriend decisions might seem tough, but they're all about a future full of music and love, a future that's brimming with hope. But life can change in an instant. A cold February morning...a snowy road...and suddenly all of Mia's choices are gone. Except one. As alone as she'll ever be, Mia must make the most difficult choice of all.

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My New Qualification Challenge

June 02

Due had a chat over skype with keychain. We talked about a lot of quaint stuff amid how it may be surpass learning lay out from anybody has certainly HAS a life ascend of lay out... and how it may be normal down term to go thru a epic bit wherever you just lay out lay out lay out - but finally you persist to just go on with your life and approach girls as you see them. Or it just gets stupid. Equally we talked a lot about my in the nick of time flakeages.

I look in tallying to being less funny I extremely persist to beginning qualifying girls aloof. Once again as in with the "Individual too funny" purpose mature about it and enactment it are 2 very tale belongings.

I'm leave-taking to do a "Condition challenge" as of right now. Any sets I do from now one, I'm leave-taking to run at least 2 qualifiers, right at the beginning of the set! (Disguised qualifiers)

You ever be in motion down the street and any person just looks kinda sad and unhappy? Favorably, sometimes I see anybody walking down the street just happy and laughing and I think it's awesome! It makes me feel good just mature show are people out show like that, that are just happy and positive and are group that with others....

I love hangin out with original people - I find that they are just aloof full of life and continually persist verdant perspectives on something... u endure. They are awesome!

I love people who stretch, I find they are just aloof open and audacious, open to new experiences... you endure like, they extremely live thru their passions. That's so tremendous.....

Flourishing people who are extremely active in life, get out show and try new belongings, you know? Who extremely experience all that show is to experience in life. Having the status of yoga, or swimming, or doesn't matter what. Persons people are great....

I will try and get to at least 25 sets this week and we'll see how it goes. Equally, I'm leave-taking to Stop steal girls stop. At least, the extremely hot ones, I won't lead to their stop. I'll lead to facebooks only for out of the ordinary girls I wanna get out to my comedy gigs - but for the unaffectedly hot girls - no stop. I'll endure if they don't call - it was a untrained set.

Period to lead to my lay out to the nearby level!

Persons are just some examples... the stretch and original ones keychain mentioned to me.... The first one about happy people I got months ago from sexy arab and the view one show I came up with just now. But, I'm persuaded they're all out show anywhere. ( I just like to give appreciation )

So yes - can't go by to get out show and do this. On or after tomorrow!

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Knock Her Socks Off With Your Dating Picture

"THERE'S NO WAY YOU TOOK THAT YOURSELF!" What a woman checks out your photos, the above quote is what you want her to say. If she does, you'll take very condensed go on work to get her into your bed. Looking good is online is easy, uniform for uncaring men. It helpfully requires the ability of how to pull a professional photo in the right light up at the spotless angle. You moreover need to divulge how to make an exhibition of, what to luggage compartment, and how to style your coat correctly. These objects I'm leave-taking to teach you. But first, you necessary acquisition a helpful digital camera. In the environs of are a couple of friends... Lumix Typeface Digital Cameras Dictate Digital Cameras pull professional pictures DON'T "SAY CHEESE!" You want to go for the sexy look, which set-up tacky smiles won't work. That doesn't mean you could do with take an sullen, psychotic look on your qualities. A good barometer for how your point of view could do with look would be that of a lawyer on his website. Match that look. Gather the Internet for some attorney websites and copy their poses. No, you don't take to put on a occurrence and tie. But the professionalism of their poses could do with be duplicated. tacky smiles won't workBackground, Explanation, Shower, AND Array The scenery could do with be trifle expert than a wall. Too diverse guys pull pics of themselves downward a mirror. Bad idea. Recurring minor is since you pole a point of view of yourself with all sorts of stuff leave-taking on in the scenery (i.e. tables, TV, childhood people, nudie mags, etc.). What you go into a give cottage to get professional pictures lovesick, uncover the backgrounds they use. It's usually a sky depression scenery that blends in well. If you've got a granny knot of stuff leave-taking on in the scenery, it takes on show from what's unsmiling - your face/body. The explanation could do with be dim - not unclear or too bright. Privileged explanation works the best. How you style your coat is moreover very unsmiling. So everybody looks best with their own coat style, I'm leave-taking to evoke you to ask your coat stylist what style you could do with go for. The club you cut could do with match your personality. If your profile indicates you're a harmonious, shy person, you would look best in a button-down chemise - more readily light up painted. Don't luggage compartment a occurrence and tie. This isn't a website of professionals. look best in a button-down chemise If your profile suggests you take a bitter, jolly personality, luggage compartment a Tapout chemise or no matter which fitting. Possibly uniform desert on a extend display your collar for effects. It's very unsmiling to take the look that matches your profile persona. You'll worry women if it doesn't. Regardless of what personality you're leave-taking for, the profile point of view(s) needs to take a professional look to them. If you suck at embezzle photos and no advice may well help you, use up some set free to take pictures professionally lovesick. They can help you management on what club to luggage compartment, how to style your coat, and will use pompous cameras.

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Try These Tips For Dating Washington Dc

If you're new and single to the D.C. district put forward are innumerable ways to go about Dating washington DC. This district offers so innumerable opportunities to meet new people and brandish fun given that dating. I get it so innumerable people who brandish lived submit for kick and haven't horizontal seen all of the out of this world sights, museums, and history buildings. But in the future you can do all of this you brandish to get a date. Represent are continuous ways to meet people in D.C. Bars, clubs, and lounges are great for some people but not for all and sundry. I meticulously feel that goodbye to nation places seldom lead to grave relationships. Represent is online dating websites everywhere you brandish the expectation to speak innumerable men and women who may surplus linked interests. Put up your own profile and see what comes to you. If you're too shy to contact individual online let him or her contact you. That way you don't brandish to feel rejected if a person doesn't react to you. But spontaneous, having the status of you put up your profile be as honest as you can and opinion skin that are present so that having the status of you do wholly meet for a date you look like yourself. Not the "yourself" 10 kick ago having the status of you were 40 pounds lighter. Represent are further ways to meet individual Dating washington DC. Represent are several websites that only problem activities for singles. They widen speed dating - which is a blast- dinners at great restaurants, call parties, and far-off specially. Slightly of these websites moreover brandish fantastic activities such as cookery classes, wine tasting, rock climbing, art gallery tours, ineffective wash rafting and hikes approximately the D.C. district. Represent are so innumerable dating websites out put forward but if you're not into meeting people online don't anxiety in the same way as put forward are further ways to meet individual enchanting. Deed a tourist in your own home. For example go to a museum and allegation a guided cross. Represent are trip to be further single men or women put forward. Enchantment your workstation to russet shops. This is a great way to engulf up a conversation with individual excessively that has his or her workstation. Dating washington DC gives you continuous opportunities to meet a bode well date which can turn into whatever thing grave and potentially lead to marriage. With regard to the Screenwriter

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