Monday, December 29, 2014

Senior Dating Conversation Topics

Senior Dating Conversation Topics
So you're all set for that first real meeting and you've planned to meet in a neutral location such as a coffee shop. I've previously mentioned some conversation topics to avoid (though I'll be going over those again in the next article) but you may be wondering what CAN you talk about? Remember that you'll both likely be a bit nervous, and it's okay to break the ice by saying that or making a little joke about it. Say something like: "I haven't been this nervous since I went on my first date when I was seventeen!" If you sense that your nerves are giving you a bit of verbal diarrhea, take a breath and deliberately turn the stage over to your date. It's important to ensure that the conversation is not one-sided - neither you nor your date should be doing ALL the talking. For example, you have been chatting about how you love travelling and suddenly realize that you have started a dissertation about every place you have ever visited as if you were making a documentary for National Geographic! Stop, and ask your date where is the most memorable place that they've ever visited, and let him or her elaborate. Nerves can also make people clam up so if this happens, put on your listening cap and ask questions to draw your date out. "What was the food like? Did you go on any sight-seeing tours? What made you want to go to Ireland? How did you find the people there - I hear the Irish are very friendly and fun loving." Here are five good topics for conversation to help keep things light. They will help you discover some interesting things about your date and most importantly the interests you share in common: (1) Hobbies - what kinds of things do you love to do? Think of things that you do to make you happy and talk about it. Maybe it is a pastime like genealogy or quilting. Maybe cooking is your thing, or maybe you volunteer at the local hospital. Don't assume that reading is bland and boring. Your discussion about favourite authors, books, plays and movies can be a great way to discover your shared passions. (2) Travel - places you have been or would love to go. This doesn't have to mean exotic international destinations; it could mean a great resort in cottage country two hours away that you visited. (3) Favourite foods. This is a great way to see how open-minded and flexible your date is plus it is a good way to find a common ground for a potential future meal together. You may just discover that your date loves Indian food as much as you do! (4) Exercise and fitness. This is another good way to discover commonalities for a future date. Maybe you both love to walk, or sail or do Tai Chi. Imagine planning a picnic in a place near the boardwalk where you can walk for a mile together and enjoy each other's conversation, while taking in the fresh air and beautiful scenery. (5) Family - talk about your kids and grandkids in general terms, but be cautious not to blather on and on about them. You may be very proud that your daughter graduated from Harvard with her PhD in law and your son is the chief surgeon at some huge hospital, but if you spend two hours talking about them and their accomplishments it takes the spotlight away from YOU. Remember that the purpose of the date is for you and your date to get to know each other - not each other's kids! Also if your date has kids but doesn't really want to talk about them, this may be a signal that there is some trouble in paradise. This will all reveal itself naturally as the relationship develops but don't talk too much about your kids if you sense that this may be an uncomfortable subject for your date. Remember to find the common ground! If you are not much of a drinker, or allergic to cigarette smoke, don't be afraid to say so. If your date drinks heavily and smokes like a chimney, these behaviours are difficult to change in people, so they can end up being deal breakers. But it is better to get that on the table early on. If there is a real connection between the two of you however, your date can decide how and if they want to adjust their habits to accommodate you, especially if you have a health issue associated with those habits. Conversely YOU may be the one with the habits that offend your date. You may be faced with a situation where you have to consider whether you like this person enough to want to change to be considerate to their needs. Remember, try to vary the conversation up so that you cover a variety of subjects and try to avoid all the negatives and deeply personal things. If the relationship develops, your ability to share your personal life will gradually happen in time, so don't be in a rush to talk about it on the first date. It's imperative in the early days to find as much common ground as you can, on which to build the foundation of the relationship. This doesn't mean you shouldn't talk about things that make you unique and special, on the contrary. But try to read your date's signals of what to talk about and what NOT to talk about. While it's important to draw conversation out of your date by asking questions if they are nervously quiet, don't push too hard. Try a little humour to relax them. If you end up with someone who doesn't let you get a word in, you will have to judge for yourself if this person is an arrogant boor who loves to talk about themselves, or if they are just so nervous, they don't know when to stop. You will know whether or not you want to give them another chance by going on a second date. Just remember that you are both in the same boat, but your date may not have had the benefit of the insightful Senior Dating advice that you have!

Sunday, December 28, 2014

Scientist Discovers How To Make Any Woman Horny

Scientist Discovers How To Make Any Woman Horny
IN NEW YORK CITY, A SMALL TEAM OF RESEARCHERS RECENTLY STUMBLED UPON A DISCOVERY THAT CAN MAKE ANY WOMAN HORNY. AND NO, THIS DOESN'T HAVE TO DO WITH MAKING BILLIONS OF DOLLARS WHILE YOU SLEEP OR GETTING 6-PACK ABS OVERNIGHT.

THIS INNOVATION IS BASED ON FUNDAMENTAL PSYCHOLOGICAL PRINCIPLES. YET DISGUISES THIS COMPLEX 'TECHNOLOGY' IN 3 TYPICAL QUESTIONS.

IN FACT, THESE ARE QUESTIONS YOU MIGHT ASK A GIRL ANYWAYS.

THE BEST PART IS WHEN DONE CORRECTLY, YOU STIMULATE THE PRIMITIVE PART OF HER BRAIN, RESPONSIBLE FOR FALLING IN LOVE. IT CAN WORK ON ANY GIRL. AND I'M TALKING ABOUT THAT 'CRAZY, ROMANTIC, DO ANYTHING FOR YOUR MAN' KIND OF LOVE.

NOW I'M THE SKEPTICAL TYPE. AND AT FIRST THIS SOUNDED LIKE SOMETHING ONLY HOLLYWOOD COULD DREAM UP.

BUT IT'S FOR REAL. WHEN I SAW THAT THE SCIENTIFIC RESEARCH IS VERIFIED BY A HARVARD PSYCHOLOGIST WITH A PH. D AND IS ENDORSED BY THE ONCE EDITOR-IN-CHIEF OF PSYCHOLOGY TODAY MAGAZINE...

I GAVE IT A SECOND LOOK. AND I'M HAPPY I DID.

WEIRDLY, THE CIA INITIALLY FUNDED THE PROJECT. THEY WERE TRYING TO SECRETLY DEVELOP MIND READING TACTICS. THEN, THE SMALL TEAM OF SCIENTISTS RESPONSIBLE FOR THE BREAKTHROUGHS, TOOK THE TECHNOLOGY AND ADAPTED IT FOR USE IN EVERYDAY CONVERSATIONS.

ALTHOUGH SOME CRITICS AND ACTIVIST GROUPS CLAIM THE RESULTS ARE TAINTED. PARTIALLY BECAUSE THEY CLAIM THE TEAM OF OLDER MALE SCIENTISTS, WERE DRIVEN BY THEIR OWN SELF-INTERESTS TO MAKE THIS DISCOVERY, NOT THE PURSUIT OF SCIENTIFIC TRUTH. BECAUSE THEY KNEW THE RESULTS WOULD GIVE THEM A MASSIVE EDGE WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTING WOMEN.

ONE PARTICULARLY REBELLIOUS RESEARCHER EVEN DECIDED TO TEST THE FINDINGS ON WOMEN. AND LET'S JUST SAY IT WORKED PERFECTLY.

EVERYTHING IS EXPOSED HERE THIS QUICK, CONTROVERSIAL VIDEO. IT'S FREE, SO CHECK IT OUT IF YOU HAVE A MINUTE.

THERE IS NO TELLING HOW LONG IT WILL STAY UP. EVEN THE ORIGINAL TEAM OF RESEARCHERS ARE WORKING TO BAN THE VIDEO NOW. BLAMING THE RENEGADE SCIENTIST FOR "USING A SCIENTIFIC BREAKTHROUGH TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF UNSUSPECTING WOMEN."

THEY ALSO WARN THAT "BECAUSE THIS PSYCHOLOGY CAN BYPASS A WOMAN'S DECISION MAKING PROCESS, IT'S POSSIBLE TO IMPLANT ANYTHING YOU WANT. USING AN EXPERIMENTAL TECHNOLOGY TO MAKE A WOMAN BECOME SEXUALLY ADDICTED TO YOU, OR CHEAT ON HER HUSBAND WITH YOU IS A MORAL OUTRAGE."

FOR ME, I CAN SEE WHY SOME WOMEN, ACTIVISTS, AND SCIENTISTS ARE UPSET. BUT YOU KNOW WHAT, AS I WATCHED THE VIDEO AND STUDIED THE PRINCIPLES IN DETAIL, I WAS PRETTY BLOWN AWAY BY THE GENIUS OF THIS IDEA.

AND THAT ALONE MAKES IT WORTH CHECKING OUT.

HERE'S A LINK TO THE FREE VIDEO.



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Friday, December 26, 2014

Neo Nazi Group Hoodwinks State Into Selling It Mansion

Neo Nazi Group Hoodwinks State Into Selling It Mansion
Officials in the former East Germany have been stung by revelations that they were hoodwinked into selling a listed 19th-century manor house to a neo-Nazi group which used a frontwoman posing as a practitioner of alternative medicine to complete the deal.

The disclosures in yesterday's Der Spiegel are a major embarrassment for the once communist state of Thuringia, which spends EUR2.6 million (4.5 million) a year combating extremism in a region renowned for neo-Nazi politics and far-right violence. The neo-Nazi group plans to use the mansion as a centre for far-right extremists and Holocaust deniers.

Martina Renner, a spokeswoman for Thuringia's opposition Left Party, said the sale of the property was scandalous. "The state Government will have to explain how such a well-known building could be sold off to right-wing extremists without anyone realising what was going on," she said.

The manor in the small village of Guthmannshausen, 50km northeast of Weimar, is a neo-classical property containing a pillared banqueting hall, a sauna and numerous outbuildings. It was sold in May to a dubious neo-Nazi organisation called Gedachtnisstatte [Places of Remembrance], based in the western state of Lower Saxony. None of the officials involved realised that the buyer was a far-right group.

Yesterday, it emerged that Wolfram Schiedewitz, who is the president of Places of Remembrance, is an extremist with a track record of propagating pro-Nazi views and Holocaust denial which goes back two decades.

"We have finally found a new home," Schiedewitz declared in a message to his supporters. "We want to fill it with memory of our World War II civilians who were the victims of bombardment, expulsions and prison camps."

But experts said the group intended to set up a rallying point for the far right. The group's clandestine purchase fits a well-defined strategy which has enabled neo-Nazis to gradually increase their presence in the former communist East since Germany's reunification in 1990.

State security officials in Thuringia say the purchase of the house was most probably masterminded by a female neo-Nazi named only as "B". She posed as an alternative medicine practitioner and duped officials into believing she wanted to hold seminars in the building and rent it to other users.

However, the security officials, who insisted they were not consulted during the sale, said yesterday that "B" was not only a member of Places of Remembrance but also had close links to a Nazi group called the Society for Free Communication, the country's "largest far-right cultural organisation".

NZHerald



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Wednesday, December 24, 2014

White Skin The Right Skin For Fashion Models In India

White Skin The Right Skin For Fashion Models In India
The faces of white women and men, mostly from Eastern Europe, stare out from billboards, from the facades of glitzy, glass-fronted malls and from fashion magazines in India. At an international automobile show last month in New Delhi, most of the models were white.

The presence of Caucasian models in Indian advertisements has grown in the past three years, industry analysts say. The trend reflects deep cultural preferences for fair skin in this predominantly brown-skinned nation of more than 1 billion people. But analysts say the fondness for "fair" is also fueled by a globalized economy that has drawn ever more models from Europe to cities such as Mumbai, India's cultural capital.

"Indians have a longing for that pure, beautiful white skin. It is too deep-rooted in our psyche," said Enakshi Chakraborty, who heads Eskimo India, a modeling agency that brings East European models here. "Advertisers for international as well as Indian brands call me and say, 'We are looking for a gori [Hindi for white] model with dark hair.' Some ask, 'Do you have white girls who are Indian-looking?' They want white girls who suit the Indian palate."

Family elders commonly comment on a newborn baby's color, after checking out the gender. One of the best-selling skin creams in India is called Fair ">Advertisers say that white female models appeal to them because they are typically less inhibited than their Indian counterparts when it comes to showing skin and posing in lingerie.

International fashion magazines in India, such as Cosmopolitan, Elle, Marie Claire and Vogue, regularly feature white women in their spreads. The fashion features editor of Vogue's Indian edition, Bandana Tiwari, calls the approach "going glocal," combining the words "global" and "local" to describe the new urban Indian consumer.

"When we put the white model in Indian clothes, it is a cultural exchange. It shows India's economic self-confidence," Tiwari said. "Of course, it also caters to the general feeling that 'fair' and 'beautiful' go together. For a rickshaw-puller who earns 2 dollars a day, seeing a fair-skinned woman is an escape, a fantasy."

Source : ASIAN PACIFIC POST.


Friday, December 19, 2014

Introducing Happiness

Introducing Happiness
I'm delighted to say that today is the official launch date for my book Introducing Happiness: A Practical Guide, published by the lovely Icon Books, both in hard copy and also on the Kindle. The book is a brief and breezy guide to various practical and philosophical approaches to happiness, from the world of positive psychology and the so-called "new science of happiness", to the disreputable behaviour of the Greek philosopher Diogenes, to the intricacies of Buddhist meditation, to the sublime idleness of Zhuangzi. And it's filled with what I hope are both entertaining and intriguing practical exercises so that intrepid readers can put some of the ideas in the book into practice.

Happiness these days is big business, and everyone (including me) seems to be getting in on the act; and it seems to me to be a good thing that there is a wider move to take happiness seriously. Nevertheless, as I have written before on this site, there are problems with some aspects of the current happiness agenda. And so whilst it was my aim in this book to put forward a variety of philosophical and practical approaches that have been claimed to lead to greater happiness - an Epicurean intelligence with respect to pleasure, for example, or the practice of Buddhist meditation, or the cultivation (harder than it looks) of uselessness after the model of Zhuangzi - it also asks the reader to look more closely at the claims that are made for happiness, and to ask what else, aside from happiness, might matter.

The book begins by saying fairly emphatically that it does not actually promise the reader happiness (even whilst I hope that it doesn't actively make people unhappy). There are a couple of reasons for this. The first is that too many books make over-inflated claims about happiness, as if the problems of life might be solved by coughing up the price of a paperback; but my hunch is that they probably can't. This isn't to say that books cannot contribute to happiness - many books from Husserl's "Cartesian Meditations" to Tove Jansson's "Comet in Moominland" have, in their own obscure and peculiar ways, contributed to the happiness and richness of my own life - but it seems unfair to demand that any one book should be able to sprinkle the fairy-dust of happiness over its reader and make Everything All Right.

But there is another reason that the book, whilst it is cheerily practical, doesn't actually promise happiness; and that is because there are various kinds of thing, not all of them the same, that we might call "happiness". The happiness of an Epicurean in their garden is not the same as the happiness of a Stoic; the happiness of the Buddhist meditator is not the same as that of the idle Daoist sage; and the believer might claim that even the most supremely happy non-believer is somehow missing out on true happiness. To take an example, I sometimes look at descriptions of the supreme happiness promised in Buddhist texts and think, "Hmm I'm not sure I'd be "happy" with that kind of happiness" (which, the orthodox might respond, is simply a sign of my incorrigible worldliness. Ho hum) So even if these various approaches to happiness all "work", they don't necessarily lead us to the same point, to the same form of life. So one of the things I want to encourage readers of the book to do is to look more closely at what is being offered and promised when happiness is being talked about, and to ask whether, and to what extent, this is in fact desirable.

And this, finally, leads to the other aspect of the book, which is that it tries to encourage readers to look at the wider political issues that are necessarily a part of any talk about happiness. It seems to me that too many happiness books treat happiness as if it were exclusively a matter of working on your own inner life; but there are always broader political questions at stake, and so in the book I wanted to give readers a few ways in to exploring these questions. Because if this is a practical guide, then - as Aristotle knew - practical philosophy is not just a matter of ethics, but also of politics.

If you want to get hold of a copy, the link is here: Introducing Happiness: A Practical Guide.

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Monday, December 8, 2014

One Billion Rise Victoria Bc 2013

One Billion Rise Victoria Bc 2013
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Thursday, December 4, 2014

Thinking Of Going Gray

Thinking Of Going Gray
We are pleased to be hosting Anne Kreamer here on the blog on Wednesday, October 19 to talk with us about her latest book, It's Always Personal. Our readers were fascinated by her last visit here when she shared her personal story about Going Gray, so we thought we'd share some excerpts of our last chat with Anne. If you've ever considered going gray yourself, here's some of what Anne shared with us at that time:

NR: What were the issues that you'd uncovered while your hair was growing out?

Anne: I discovered that I was worried about whether I could ever be attractive to men in the same way with gray hair as I thought I had been with my dyed brown hair. And when I began to talk with other women about my experience I uncovered that worry about their loss of attractiveness is perhaps the single greatest fear almost all women feel as they get older since gray hair is our most visible signal of age. Women were also terrified that they would lose professional opportunity if they were perceived as old.

NR: How did you go about getting at the underlying truth or issues behind those fears?

Anne: I did several different things. I talked to as many different kinds of men and women as I could - from well-known people like Emmylou Harris, Anna Quindlen, Frances McDormand, Mireille Guiliano (French Women Don't Get Fat), Nora Ephron and Governor Ann Richards to regular people I met across the country. I conducted a national survey of 500 people probing all sorts of issues around aging and the things that we do to mask the signs of aging. I used myself as a guinea pig in a variety of situations - I pseudo-dated on-line, went out to bars, interviewed headhunters and met in cognito with image consultants. And I read everything I could get my hands on.

NR: What surprised you the most?

Anne: You mean after I figured out that I had spent 65,000 on hair color alone during the 25 years I dyed my hair? (That 65,000 would today be worth 300,000 after adjusting for inflation!)

NR: Wow! But yes, beyond that statistic.

Anne: What most surprised me was discovering that when it comes to letting their hair be its natural gray, or not, I think a lot of women tend to be worried about the wrong thing. I certainly was. More women are more worried that men won't find them attractive with gray hair, and yet believe that gray hair is acceptable professionally. My research revealed that the truth is the opposite.

NR: What do you mean?

Anne: Well, for instance, I tried to really get at whether gray hair was unattractive to men on Match.com. I figured if I was honest about my age and interests and posted an image of myself with gray hair that I'd naturally get fewer "dates" (or "winks" as overtures are called on Match.com) than I would when I posted the same information but instead used an image of myself with my hair Photo-shopped brown. And shockingly, after I did the experiment three times in three different cities, three times as many men in New York, Chicago and L.A. were interested in going out with me when my hair was gray. This blew my mind. When I was on Good Morning America, they replicated the experiment with a 61-year-old widow in Florida and she had the exact same results! Maybe men figured that if we were being honest about the color of our hair that perhaps our lack of pretence would make us more accessible and easier to date. Or maybe the gray made me stand out from the overwhelming majority of Match-com women my age who color their hair. I honestly don't know. But I do know the results were inspiring. We should give men a lot more credit.

NR: Did you test this theory in the real world?

Anne: Yes, as a matter of fact, I did. I went out to a variety of New York bars (from places where Wall Street guys would hang out to the kinds where locals went to watch sports) and once again I was really surprised by how it seemed that my gray hair color did nothing to prevent me from meeting and talking with nice-looking younger guys. Most women I talked with during research for my book were convinced that if a woman had gray hair and then got divorced that it was absolutely essential that she dye her hair if she were ever going to date again. I strongly believe that that is not the case. And moreover, I would suggest to most women that if the guy they're interested in will only like them if they dye their hair, then maybe he's not Mr. Right.

NR: Was there anything else that supports your contrarian point of view?

Anne: The results from my survey were compelling. There is a huge double standard. Through a Photo shopped experiment I also tested precisely how much gray hair aged a person and what I discovered is that if a person is in their 40s or 50s, gray hair allows others to accurately guess a person's age. When I Photo shopped the gray hair out with brown, the person was guessed to be about two or three years younger. Which seems like a modest difference to work so hard to achieve. I think the reality is we are only fooling ourselves about our age through the use of hair color.

NR: So what was the story professionally?

Anne: I interviewed different media headhunters - one in New York, the other based in Colorado and both said that they had neither a female client nor a prospective job candidate with gray hair. They went into real detail about how gray hair was consistently viewed as a signal that a person would not be "right" for most company cultures. And they suggested that if a woman were in sales or marketing allowing herself to go gray on the job would be the kiss of death.

NR: You didn't expect this?

Anne: I met with these women assuming they'd tell me that if I wanted to get back into the corporate arena then I'd have to update my image and dye my hair. But I didn't expect them to be so emphatic about how damaging gray hair could be to a woman's career. What I've come to believe is that we need women in prominent positions (say, Hillary Clinton) to have their natural hair color in order to give other women the choice or option to dye or not to dye. In my mind it's like baldness was for men before professional athletes like Michael Jordan or actors like Bruce Willis made baldness seem sexy and masculine. If there were more Emmylou Harris' the choice would be easier.

NR: What about the image consultants?

Anne: I was completely taken aback by the image consultants. I met with three very different people and firms and in each instance they believed that my gray hair could be a professional asset - something along the lines of the way Meryl Streep looked playing the character, Miranda Priestly in the Devil Wears Prada. The main thing I learned from the consultants is that if you change any one aspect of your look, then it is important to modify everything else to bring out your best features. I needed to update my style and color palette.

NR: Where did you end up? Do you disapprove of people who dye their hair?

Anne: I certainly don't disapprove of people who dye their hair - after all, I'm a very recent convert to my natural color. And I no longer work in a corporate environment so I have the luxury of feeling safe and comfortable writing at home by myself with my gray hair and I've been married to the same man for 30 years. But I did come through on the other side happier and more at home in my body than when I dyed my hair. It feels liberating to walk down the street and know that as much as possible I'm projecting pretty much who I am to the world. I love not spending the time at the beauty shop and I really love not spending the money.

I feel like I'm a better role model for my daughters and it seems like my husband finds me as sexy with my natural hair.

I also discovered through my research and reading that acknowledgement of your real age is one of the most important tools we have to increase the odds that we'll age healthfully and happily. Several studies have clearly indicated that people who accept their age actually live longer. So I love that by choosing to give up one little piece of artifice I might actually be helping myself stick around longer for the grandchildren I long to know.

NR: If you'd like to hear more from this dynamite woman, join us again on Wednesday for another sit-down with Anne Kreamer. You'll learn about her take on the new realities of emotions in the workplace as Anne talks about her new book, It's Always Personal.