Play Hard To Get

It is funny because from the time they are little girls women are raised and told to play hard to get. They are advised to always let the guy chase them. They are told to act disinterested and to never quite give their hearts away until they have a wedding ring on their finger.

Conversely, from the time they are little boys men are raised and told that their job is to pursue women. They are advised to go after what they want. To be aggressive and fight for the girl of their dreams. They are also told that they have won the "game" when the woman agrees to marry them.

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Well I'm here to tell both men and women that this does not need to be so. I think in any healthy relationship there are elements of give and take. Sometimes the woman is the one who makes herself more vulnerable in a relationship, but sometimes it is the man's job to be the vulnerable one.

And when it comes to courtship, it is OK for men to play a bit hard to get. It isn't just men who want what they can't have. Women also want what they can't have. This can be a sure fire strategy to either spark a woman's interest in you or to even get an ex girlfriend to be interested again.

Playing hard to get is not a game, despite the word "playing" because for it to truly be effective, you genuinely have to consider yourself unavailable. You really need to feel like you are not interested in the woman for it to work. When you truly don't care whether that hot woman approaches you or not, well, chances are that is when you are going to be approached.

I read the greatest example of how this works once from a woman's perspective. She was out at the bar with a bunch of her friends at a bar and they met a guy from Denmark. (The bar was in the U.S.) Apparently the guy made somewhat of a disparaging remark about how most Americans don't even know where Denmark is.

Her girlfriends agreed with him, basically saying that Americans could be so ignorant about other countries and other cultures. But this girl said something to the effect that it was because nobody needed to know where Denmark was anyway. She was sassy and confident and said it with a smile and then walked off.

Later when she was at the bar by herself, the guy from Denmark came and found her.

To me, that is the ultimate and perfect example of playing hard to get. Not being a jerk, but not trying to make anyone like you. That is the goal. Because you see when you try to make someone like you, chances are you are going to fail. It is the trying part that doesn't work. And it is especially ineffective when you go against what you naturally feel or think in an effort to make someone like you.

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Are You Keeping Your Partner Satisfied

I Love Me

Satisfaction in a relationship can take several forms - physical, emotional and mental. As a relationship matures, companionship becomes important as well. Whether it is a husband-wife relationship or that of a boyfriend-girlfriend, for it to be successful, both partners must be receptive to each others' needs and desires. If you want to keep your partner satisfied, start by being there for him/her while understanding just when they might need some personal space as well. Share your partner's interests and be there to listen when he/she needs a good listener. Surprise your partner once in a while by sending a bouquet of fresh roses, planning a weekend away or simply cooking a nice meal.

We can all get caught up in the rat race sometimes and when you get home from work it is easy to tune out and just shut down. Try to leave your work problems at work so you can come home with an open mind. If you or your spouse are at home taking care of the children then keep in mind that as much as you just want to just pass them off to them when they get home that they need a little time to adjust back to home life and this could be the cause of unneeded stress at home. If you have family that lives close by and that can watch your children then be sure to reach out to them to give your and your loved one a little personal space. Hire a sitter if they are old enough and plan out date nights. Everyone needs a break from the daily routines that we are engulfed in. Make sure you make these plans and cherish that time spend alone together.

We all have different expectations with our physical needs. Make sure that you and your partner talk about these needs so you have a mutual understanding. It is always nice to have a balance with your partners sexual needs so that you or your partner doesn't become frustrated. You don't necessarily want to plan out and calendar your 'love-making' but you should have a general understanding of whether you are not spending enough intimate time with each other.

-Brian R.

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