Hey everybody! It's GP Walsh with the balls project video channel. We got another question from our listener. Remember to send your questions to questions@ballsproject.com
This question is an interesting one and for those of you who are, for those of you guys out there who are familiar with some of the teaching they picked up artist community, there's a term that they like to call INDIFERENCE and the question is about indifference.
Q: There are plenty of things in my life and even types of women that I am indifference about. It's not like they are flooding into my life. How does that apply to indifference being supposedly so attractive?
A: It's kind of a conventional wisdom in that space, that the way you become attractive to women is to become indifferent towards them and it's really become terribly misunderstood. There's actually an entire video that I did about it and I'll put the links so you could go into, there's like a series of videos. Actually if you register to the balls project, you can get the series of videos that's free. We will give it to you if you register.
Indifference is referring a sense of inner strength where you're willing to put yourself out there, risk being rejected, risk being hurt, risked being disapproved of because you want the rewards of it. It's not an indifference towards women, its not an indifference towards what you want, it's not overcoming or transcending desire, it's none of that.
It simply developing a sense of confidence and the sense of the nature of life, the reality of life that you can't go through life without being hurt so you take risk. You put yourself out there. You let yourself go up. Talk to a woman if you want to, go ahead. She may fled and reject you, she may treat you like you're, you're a weirdo. It's okay! You're not! But if you are, we need to talk about that, that's a different thing all together but you're not.
Not everybody is going to think you are wonderful; a lot of people are if you give them a chance to get to know you. See? You have to become indifferent to the results of your action. You have to become indifferent to the fact that being rejected hurts. Its always going to hurt, it's never ever going to go away, you'll never going to be the superman that could do anything and nothing ever bothers him. That is none sense, it's mythological, it's nonsense, it's childish. Nonsense, you'll always going to hurt and you do it anyway. You accept the consequences of your action and you reach out.
That's how actually people will get to know you, when you're indifferent towards that, you can be yourself and that is what is so attractive guys. Being yourself, being genuinely present, that's what is attractive. The only way you're real self will come out as if you're willing to risk to get hurt, getting rejected, getting put down, if you are, if you're willing to do it, lick your wounds and move on to the next thing, cool! Great! You're in. That is how it works. You're going to have actually way more success in every aspect of your life because you are going to take a risk and put yourself out there. You're going to let people see who you are, that's also how you are going to open the door towards genuine intimacy. Somebody can love you for being who you are, not a fake person you have become in order to get approval.
That's it! This is GP Walsh ballsproject.com, questions@ballsproject.com until next time. Thanks for watching.
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