There are many theories about how affirmations should be phrased for maximum results. The most common theories, however, have misled many folks into believing things which simply are not true. I'd like to take a moment and set the record straight.The theory most often taught says, "the subconscious mind cannot process a negative, and therefore interprets any negative phrase incorrectly."One of the classic examples of this is an affirmations like, "I will not get sick." According to the traditional teachings, our minds will ALWAYS interpret this as, "I will get sick."WHAT'S RIGHT ABOUT THE TRADITIONAL TEACHINGSBefore I provide ample evidence showing where the traditional teachings are wrong, I want to give credit where credit is due. There is a psychological principle, which is normally taught in courses on conversational hypnosis like my "Keys To Power Persuasion" course, called the "Pink Elephant Principle." This principle describes how our inner minds are literally forced to imagine anything and everything we hear or read in order to understand what is being said.Again, the classic example is this. Whatever you do, do NOT think of a pink elephant.It cannot be done and still understand what is being said. You may be able to avoid forming a picture in your mind of a pink elephant in a lacy tutu standing on a large ball holding a feather, but your inner mind THINKS of it long enough to understand what you're supposed to avoid doing.Additionally, experts in conversational hypnosis are able to issue "embedded commands" within a larger sentence. As a result, they can tell someone, "please don't feel compelled to give me your wallet" and the person almost invariably complies with the subliminal message.On the surface, this may give further support to the idea that our inner minds cannot process a negative, but the secret to embedded commands is HOW they are spoken. In the example above, special emphasis is given to the words "feel compelled to." If this emphasis was not given, the 'trick' wouldn't work.Because of the Pink Elephant Principle, and the effects of conversational hypnosis, some folks have incorrectly assumed that the mind cannot process a negative, such as the words 'not' or 'no'.WHAT'S WRONG ABOUT THE TRADITIONAL TEACHINGSPerhaps what should be the most obvious flaw in the traditional teaching is one that may be the most easily overlooked. If our inner minds could not process a negative, then how did we accumulate such words into our language to begin with?Since all language is processed by our inner minds before being stored as memories, it logically follows that we could not remember anything our inner minds could not process. And this being so, anything we have stored in our memories MUST be something our inner minds are capable of processing.The sheer fact that many people have powerfully strong negative memories of a parent saying things like, "you'll never amount to anything, you're no good," or "you're no genius" proves the idea that "our inner minds cannot process a negative" to be false. If it were true, these early memories would have been stored as "you'll amount to anything, you're good," and "you're genius" respectively, and be incredibly positive influences in our lives.Those who support the traditional teachings will immediately respond by saying this isn't what they are talking about. It's what they SAY, but not what they MEAN. Of course, when they say this, they are admitting they don't really know what they're talking about. If they did, they'd say what they mean.Pushed on this point, those who support the traditional teaching will admit that it depends on what the person FOCUSES upon in the affirmation. In our original affirmation example of "I will not get sick," if the person focuses on the words, "get sick" then that's what happens. Otherwise, if they focus on the word, "not", the affirmation proves more effective.This is what an expert persuader does when they apply emphasis on an embedded command - they direct the listener to focus upon the part of the phrase they want them to act upon, such as "feel compelled to give me your wallet."Here's another example. In sports, many athletes are taught to use affirmations such as, "there is no pain". Sure enough, their inner minds correctly interpret the phrase and reduce the level of pain. If their inner minds could not process the negative, the pain would increase, not decrease.Supporters of the traditional teachings will further state that our inner minds naturally and automatically focus upon the negative aspects of an affirmation. Perhaps this happens to them because they have conditioned themselves to LOOK for negative words and phrases in order to eliminate them from their own speech. But to say it happens for everyone is na"ive and ill-informed.WHY THE TRADITIONAL TEACHINGS CONTINUELet's step back a moment here and consider WHY the traditional teachings continue to be repeated over and over again until it has become accepted as "common wisdom."The idea is that when you repeat positive affirmations, you will attract to yourself positive experiences. And when you repeat affirmations containing negative words and phrases, you will attract negative experiences.The basic concept is sound. When you repeat certain statements, you can build within yourself a belief in what you're saying, and our beliefs have a power to direct the course of our lives. Those with very practical, scientific viewpoints will say that this "power of belief" is merely a chain that goes from belief to decision (or lack of decision) to action (or lack of action) to result (or lack ther). Those who are more spiritual see other possibilities as well.Regardless of the mechanism involved, repeating affirmations is one valid option to use when we want to change the conditions of our lives.If the traditional teachings were correct, then it would follow that someone who repeats positively phrased affirmations will always experience a more positive result than one who repeats affirmations containing a negative word or phrase. Let's take a real example, and see if this theory holds water.For many years, I've said to myself and others, "I don't get sick." It's not an affirmation I repeat dozens and hundreds of times, day after day after day. But then again, I don't spend any time thinking of my health, and I certainly don't spend any time repeating health-based affirmations. And yet, the end result is that I can count on one hand the number of times I have been "under the weather" during the last 20 years.The other side of this example is that I've known MANY people over the years who have spent hours and hours repeating affirmations such as "my body is a temple of perfect health, I am a channel for Divine Health," or "God is healing me now," all of which are excellent, 100% positive affirmations. The only problem is that these folks had more health problems than most.Along another line, I've known many people who would constantly say, "I'm broke, I'm poor," or "Money is hard to come by," and yet were much better off financially than those who constantly affirmed, "I am worthy of abundant prosperity, God's riches flow to me in ever increasing amounts," or "I am blessed with abundant riches all the days of my life."Obviously, affirmations by themselves are not the answer. And certainly not the way the affirmations are phrased. There is something else which determines how well an affirmation will work. If you've read my book, Choose To Believe, you'll know this. It is the belief we have (or don't have) in the idea contained within the affirmation.You see, those people who kept repeating 100% positive affirmation about perfect health without getting positive results really didn't believe what they were affirming. Each time they said to themselves, "my body is a temple of perfect health", their inner minds responded with a thought or feeling like, "What? Are you crazy? My body is so sick I can hardly move." While they may have been saying something positive, the affirmation merely served to remind them of their negative experience.And those who constantly said things like "I'm poor" had a completely different concept of what "poor" means than those in lower income brackets. To one person, 'poor' may mean they make less than 100,000 a year. To someone else, earning 30,000 may feel like stumbling into Ali Baba's cave.So, the bottom line is that the affirmations we use, in order to be effective, must call up within our minds a positive idea or feeling. How the affirmation is phrased doesn't matter nearly as much as the idea or feeling brought up by the affirmation, and this may be completely different from person to person.THE PSYCHOLOGICAL STAIRWAYAnother factor to consider in all this is what I call the Psychological Stairway. When you go into a high-rise office building and want to get to the 10th floor, you cannot step directly from the 1st floor to the 10th, and must take the stairs, elevator, or escalator to get there.In much the same way, someone who has to "look up to see the grass" cannot usually jump immediately to a grand, expansive, 100% positive, sugar-coated affirmation such as "My life is a perfect picture of abundance and overflowing joy."For someone who struggles daily with lack, limitation, and self-worth issues, attempting to use such a glorious affirmation generally serves merely to remind them of their hardships and frustrations. These folks tend to get better results with affirmations which get them a little closer to their goals, where a "better" affirmation will have more meaning.One person may say an affirmation of "I am blessed with a great abundance of wonderful things" and get a strong positive feeling, whereas someone else may say the exact same phrase and be reminded of how hard they've had to struggle in recent years.For this 2nd person, a better affirmation may be "Life doesn't have to be hard. It can be easy." If they get a positive feeling from the affirmation, it's much more likely to produce positive results than if they repeat a 100% positive affirmation which doesn't resonate with them at all.As an example from my own past, I can remember times when I felt so low, repeating affirmations like "Wealth is an ever-present reality in my life" felt like vinegar in my mouth, and therefore produced either no results, or in fact "negative" results. (i.e. - things got worse). When I decided to use a more "believable" affirmation of "things are not as bad as I think they are," I experienced a rather quick shift in my mindset (within minutes), allowing me to see more positive possibilities, at which point the more positive affirmations had a better chance of working.PHRASING YOUR AFFIRMATIONSAll of this leads us to a set of general guidelines we can follow to create powerful affirmations that will produce positive results in our lives. By concentrating on the feeling we get when we say an affirmation, and not worrying about whether it contains negative words or phrases, we are more likely to see the results we want.Here is what I suggest to those attending my Choose To Believe workshops.First, as clearly as you can, imagine the final result you want to experience. If you want to have lots of money, a big house, nice car, and fancy clothes, daydream about living that reality now. If you want to experience vibrant health, abundant energy, and a youthful appearance, then imagine this as if you have it now.When you have a good feeling of what you want to produce in your life, then write down a short description of what it is, and do so using your own words. Try to keep it as short as you can while still preserving the feeling of what you've daydreamed about. And keep in mind that you're writing this for yourself, not anyone else, and you should express this idea in the way that seems most natural to YOU.The reason for this is because when you express the idea as you would naturally say it to yourself, you are using words and phrases your inner mind can identify with. (After all, where do the words come from in the first place?) And when you use words and phrases your inner mind can identify with, your affirmation will be accepted that much more readily.For those who want a more detailed explanation of why this works so well, we have to again refer to conversational hypnosis and a science called NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming). Basically, it is a matter of familiarity, and a type of process NLP experts call "mirroring and matching". When we meet someone who looks like us, talks like us, and expresses ideas the same way we do, we automatically trust them more. (This is explained in more detail in my Keys To Power Persuasion course.)By the same token, when you use affirmations that sound like your everyday conversation, your inner mind will trust them more than when you use affirmations that sound like "geek speak.""NEGATIVE" AFFIRMATIONS THAT WORKBelow is a list of affirmations that may not seem to be 100% positive, yet have produced great results for those who have used them. I'm not suggesting you SHOULD use these, but merely pointing out that if your affirmations look like these, it's okay. Don't let anyone tell you your own affirmations are not "good enough."* I don't get sick.* Life doesn't have to be hard. It can be easy, and my new mindset is opening the doors for an easy life experience.* The negative experiences of my past no longer have any power over me. I am free from them and look forward to expressing my true potential.* Things are not as bad as I think they are.* I have fewer problems than most people.* I have no problem saying 'no' to anyone when it's the right answer.* I am not controlled by any outside person or substance.* Although I enjoy being with other people, I do not need anyoneelse in my life to be happy.* I do not need any person or thing to be happy.* I maintain my self-control and do not overindulge my appetites.* I do not allow others to pressure me into doing something I'drather not do.* I don't have to prove my worth to anyone.* I refuse to feel guilty because someone wants something that I donot want to give them.* The past does not determine the future.In the end, what really matters is the results you get from your affirmations. If you resonate with 100% positive, sugar-coated affirmations, great! Otherwise, use something that feels a little closer to home.- Alan TuttExceptional Personal Development for Exceptional People.
Alan Tutt, author of /Choose To Believe: A Practical Guide to LivingYour Dreams/ and a leading expert on the Power of Belief, helps people reach their full potential. For more information, or to sign up for one of his free gift offers, go to www.PowerKeysPub.com
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There is a simple fact of human nature that states "we all want to be liked". Don't be afraid to admit it. If we think about it, underlying many of our actions, we are really seeking ways to validate ourselves and to fulfill this desire of being liked.
Have you ever met someone and instantly took a liking towards them? You can't explain why, but you feel a fondness and you want to do things to help them. I'm not talking about sexual attraction, but a genuine and innocent feeling of fondness towards another person.
In a job interview, you are more likely to be hired if the interviewer likes you as a person. In a business situation, you are more likely to get deals done and gain favors. In a personal situation, you are likely to gain trust and loyal friendships.
When we decide that we like someone, it is a psychological process that we cannot quite articulate. It's not a secret that we make decisions emotionally and justify them logically. So, does this mean that we can influence an emotional decision that happens subconsciously?
I believe that decisions can be influenced. I know that the qualities of a likeable person can be cultivated and proactively developed. Do you want to know how to develop the "skills" to be likable?
MY INSPIRATION
I was helping my partner Adam prepare for an interview last night. At one point, I had explained to him the power of Mirroring and that it can make others feel more comfortable around you.
When I first heard about Mirroring, I was told that "If you're afraid that the other person will get suspicious of you mimicking them, then you must be the type of person who thinks that people are actually listening when you're talking." I mentioned this and we laughed at it. I said, "Trust me, just try it out. It really works."
We went off on another topic and he asked me a question about usability testing in software. I went on answering it, and 10 minutes went by and I was still talking. It felt as if I couldn't stop talking.
When I finally finished covering all areas of software usability testing (including excruciating details that he would have little interest in), he burst out laughing.
So, apparently, he used mirroring on me. And it worked. What's amazing is that it worked on me after having just told him about it. I didn't even have a clue that he was mirroring me.
It occurred to me that "like-ability "can actually be cultivated, like many skills.
WHAT ARE THESE SKILLS?
Aside from being polite and respectful, there are several specific things we can pay particular attention to. I'm not asking you to pretend, but be aware of these things when engaged in a conversation. The little things make a big difference in how others perceive us.
1. MIRRORING
This simple technique was the inspiration for this article. Mirroring is copying the other person's physical mannerisms, movements and facial expressions when engaged in a conversation. You become a mirror image of the other person. (see Wikipedia)
Mirroring happens naturally in social interactions, but when you are conscious of it and are aware of its affects, it can be used as a tool in effective communication for generating rapport.
Mirroring someone closely will cause you to feel what they're feeling (to some extent). I did an exercise once, in a group of three, during a workshop. One person starts by visualizing a scene; seeing, feeling and experiencing the scene. A second person imitates this person's facial expressions and physical postures. A third person adjusts the second person's facial expressions and physical postures until he thinks that they are identical. After several minutes, the second person explains what she was feeling. Not only does the second person feel the feelings of the first person, but will at times see what the first person is seeing in his imagination. I was blown away after trying this out, myself.
Next time you're engaged in a conversation with someone, try mirroring body language, posture, and facial expressions. You will find that the conversation suddenly feels very friendly and open.
For example, you are sitting across the table from someone. You watch them pick up a glass of water with their left hand and gently lean forward, then to the right. You mirror them by holding your glass of water with your right hand, leaning forward and towards the left.
Try it next time... just for fun. :)
2. REMEMBERING NAMES
Personally, I'm always impressed when others I've just met remember my name and use it in a sentence. Since birth, our parents, teachers, friends, and family, have hard wired the sound of our name in our brain. It is certain to get your attention, instantly. It makes you feel important and respected, filling our desire for attention and love.
Recall the last time someone who you just met parted by declaring "Nice to meet you, [insert your name]!" Weren't you impressed? They are clearly interested in you enough to remember your name, and you want to show them the same respect.
Always make an effort to remember people's names. Here are some techniques to help you.
3. BE INTERESTED
People love talking about themselves, seriously.
Ask questions that the other person will enjoy answering. If it's a complete stranger, start with the basics and dig deeper. Rephrase their words to make sure you really understand what they're saying. You can think of this technique as "verbal" mirroring. By asking questions about their interests or feelings, you are mirroring their interest in themselves.
Really listen when the person is answering. Only when you are listening will you actually absorb what was said and will actually feel interested. If you run into a boring conversation, find ideas that do interest you and re-focus the conversation. Ask questions. Make it a game.
4. ALLOWING OTHERS TO TALK
In addition to asking questions, it's important to allow the other person to talk. This means, stop talking. Stop talking about yourself, stop inserting your opinions, refrain from interrupting.
Next time you're engaged in a conversation, practice not saying anything after asking a question. This might mean not speaking for several minutes "*gasp*". Even when the other person appears to be finished, practice not speaking for 30 seconds. Often times, the person is still thinking, is actually pausing, and will start speaking again. By doing so, you will get a lot more depth from that person.
Many girlfriends I know have the interruption problem, myself included. Pay particular attention to this skill, you'll be amazed at the wealth of thoughtful goodness coming from your partner. Being a patient listener is a great way to connect with and get to know people.
Try it: ask a question and then zip up. Listen and learn.
5. INTENTION
Send out the intention that you would like to get to know this person better, to really listen to them and to be there for them. I'm always amazed at the power of intention, which I believe is the seed for starting anything, whether it is a goal or a friendship.
Make a wish for the other person. Send out a positive intention for your interaction.
6. OFFER HELP
We are mostly self seeking and are driven by motivations that benefit us, with the exception of some extreme cases and parent-child relationships. But let's face-it, we are self-seeking most of the time because it is a natural part of our survival instincts. Even if we are working on a good cause, we almost always have a reason for helping that is personally beneficial.
When others genuinely offer their help, we feel particularly fond of them. Why? Offering help is a kind gesture that implies a respect and admiration for you. And when we put ourselves in their shoes, wouldn't it be advantageous to offer help to others?
I'm a big believer in giving more than I take in return. And my personal motto: "TO GET WHAT YOU WANT, HELP OTHERS GET WHAT THEY WANT, FIRST."
Find a need that others have that you can provide. Offer help. Even just a casual email offering help will make the world of difference towards how this person feels about you.
7. SMILE
"Everytime you smile at someone, it is an action of love,"
"a gift to that person, a beautiful thing"."
~ Mother Teresa
Do you remember how you felt when you saw a genuine smile? Or awkwardly standing in an elevator full of strangers and suddenly someone smiles at you? It really is contagious and shifts your state to a positive one.
Smile genuinely. Start by smiling at friends. Try lifting the spirits of passing strangers.
8. AUTHENTICITY
Any of the above "techniques" will work by themselves, but become highly effective only when combined with authenticity.
Always be genuine and be your complete self, no more and no less. When you are completely honest and speaking from your heart, you will exuberate a kind of energy that people cannot help but to connect with. In that moment, you are pure, expressive, and radiating your true self. When others see and recognize that side of you, they are really seeing a reflection of that part of themselves.
Just be yourself.
SUMMARY:
1. Mirroring
2. Remember Names
3. Be Interested
4. Allow Others to Talk
5. Intention
6. Offer Help
7. Smile
8. Authenticity
WHICH TECHNIQUE DO YOU THINK IS THE MOST EFFECTIVE FOR BEING LIKED? SHARE YOUR TIPS AND INSIGHTS IN THE COMMENTS.
* TITLE: Abandoned
* CLASSIFICATION: Good Fabrication
* GENRE: Over and done Fabrication
* FORMAT: Volume, 416 pages
* PUBLISHER: Mira; Innovative back issue (June 21, 2011)
* ISBN-10: 0778312976
* ISBN-13: 978-0778312970
* Notes: Has language some may well find displeasing. Contains some violence towards woman and childish, but does not go into great richness about it.
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Ania discusses climbing Everest.
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MICHAEL : Thank you very much for being with us today - I'm delighted to talk to you and ask you questions about your proposed climb of Everest. Can you kick it off by telling us about yourself?
ANIA : Sure. I'm Polish born. I grew up in a medium sized Polish town which is closer to Berlin than it is to Warsaw and I have my first degree from Strtzelin University, which is my town. And in 96 I came to London to study with one bag on the bus - it was a very expensive year for me. It was actually my first experience of raising money for a challenge that I wanted to do, to complete. I graduated from London school of Economics and go t a job in a construction company and I was country manager for Poland for two years - Flying between Warsaw and London all of the time.
And then I was head hunted by GE and I stayed with them for seven years, working in nine different European companies on different projects and initiatives - Six Sigma, Lean, Successful Effectiveness, all sorts roles. And in 2006 I joined UBS in September and came back to London for good. I have my base there now, and I manage change.
MICHAEL : Excellent. And what's important to you about climbing Everest?
ANIA : Climbing Everest is part of a bigger work for me - I'm climbing a peak on every continent - And I have one left so it;s quite a sizeable one. I'm in a culmination state of preparing for the last five years for a challenge like that and I'm raising money for Unicef.
MICHAEL : What sort of dangers are there in climbing Everest?
ANIA : Dangers are abundant in this case. It starts with the company that you decide to go with - with your hygiene standards on the mountain, with higher respiratory ways, infections which aren't very pleasant - almost 80% of people get them, and almost everybody is on antibiotics and there is a hospital set up to deal with those types of problems in base camp.
Crevices, obviously. Khumbu Ice falls, which is the most dangerous part of the mountains, and you have to go through it six times. Then there is living in, and climbing the Death Zone - this is Eight thousand meters where simply your body starts to die because it doesn't support your bodily functions anymore, so it doesn't digest food for example - So you really have to survive on muscle mass that you've built preparing.
MICHAEL : And how many accidents are there - I hate to ask the direct question.
ANIA : The death rate is around 10%.
MICHAEL : That sounds quite a serious -
ANIA : Indeed, yes.
MICHAEL : So it's real. Your life's in your hands.
ANIA : Very real. It's as real as - people don't remove bodies necessarily so you actually walk side by side with, or over, dead bodies.
MICHAEL : Moving on form that, is there anything else that you'd like to add about the particular - either the environment of the mountain or the times that you can climb?
ANIA : I climb in the easiest possible time, because I think it's challenging enough. So I'm climbing April-May next year. There are two environments going on when you're on the mountain. There is what's outside the tent, mother nature, who you're in the hands of - The interaction with almighty nature is very profound. And inside the tent you have the people, you have the cooks, you have Shurpas, and you have yourself - so for me there are two environments going on in parallel.
MICHAEL : OK. Moving on from that - Top level - What are some of the behaviors that are essential for you to get to the top and then to get back down again?
ANIA : Self discipline. To prepare for the mountain - Doing exercise for twelve months, coming up to the trip. Organizational skills, you have to think through logistics, equipment, packing, food. And mental abilities - Climbing any mountain is really 75% about mental strength and 25% is physical abilities.
MICHAEL : And what sort of preparation do you do? When do you actually start preparation?
ANIA : I've already started. Fourteen months before the V-Day, so to speak, which for me is the 3rd of April next year. So my physical preparation and exercise I do - I have my personal trainer who helps me achieve the level of fitness I need.
MICHAEL : What sort of things are there in the level of fitness? How do you know how you're getting on?
ANIA : It's things like how my body is composed between fat and muscle mass. How strong the muscles are. how much they can endure after stress. So my preparation is a little bit of cardiovascular training, a little bit strength training, and a lot of endurance - which involves having a back pack full of water bottles - up to 30 kilos and walking for eight hours over the weekend, for example.
Also, in terms of mental preparation I see myself at the certain stages of the mountain and achieving it. So I do mental forward-imaging, and I can see myself at the base camp - I can see myself at the top of the mountain. I can see myself coming back and hugging people in the airport in the way back.
MICHAEL : Looking at the actual climb itself, looking at getting to the top and getting down again, what are some of the some of the milestones? You've talked about how you've started preparing a long time in advance, but a little bit more about - take us through the milestones of how to get back.
ANIA : As I say, I started preparing seriously at least twelve months before and I had to look at logistics, food, physical/mental preparation, equipment, selection of the company and guide that I will be going with is very important. And then the whole trip, how I'll be getting to Kathmandu in 2010 and we will all meet. We won't spend any time in Kathmandu because it's very dangerous, because that's where you pick up your stomach bugs or your respiratory infections and stuff - so you want to head off as soon as possible.
First phase is getting to base camp. And base camp is a place on the mountains where there will be two thousand tents up, and it will be home for us for two months. We will have to make sure that we are very comfortable at this level of altitude. It will be 5300 meters approximately.
And then you have four camps on the mountain and then the submit - so some very natural milestones that you have to pass going up. And then the philosophy on the mountain is Walk High, Sleep Low to enable your body to adjust to the altitude, getting as many red blood cells ready as possible to feed your body with as there's a diminished amount of oxygen on the higher parts of the mountain.
So you get to base camp and then you go to camp one and come back, then go to camp two and come back, then camp three and come back. And then to camp four you only go once - on the summit, on the final day. There are people I remember waiting for two weeks of weather window when the monsoon has changed and their is this clearance of high winds at eight thousand meters, and everybody will be panicking during those two weeks, so it will get a little crowded.
And then on the last day you start on base camp and go straight to camp three, you sleep for two hours and then you go to camp four and sleep another two hours - and then you go to the top. The kind of milestones on the summit day are that you have to get -by sunrise- to the south summit to the very technically difficult bits, which is Knife Edge and the Hillary Step. And when you're on the top of Hillary Step you know you've made it. A half an hour plod to the summit and you can see the summit and people are already there celebrating.
MICHAEL : What do you anticipate that it's going to be like at the summit? What can you see?
ANIA : sunrise at the summit is very short, so you don't have much time to settle down and appreciate - And obviously because you're so deprived of sleep, energy and oxygen you don't want to spend a lot of time there. So you take your pictures in panorama, and an old cry, probably, from emotions and having achieved what you have achieved - and then you have to turn around and go down. Because 70% of accidents happen on the way down, because the adrenaline is gone, the motivation of getting to the summit is gone and you're so tired that the smallest mistake may be fatal.
And because everybody is on there own there is no ropes. People are not roped together. You are really responsible, fully, for every step on the way.
MICHAEL : And the reason people aren't roped?
ANIA : It's such a demanding climb that if you have a weaker person and a stronger person, the weaker person would endanger the life of the stronger person. So it's absolutely an individual trip for everybody. And then obviously - My plan is to come down form the summit to Camp Two, which is quite a comfortable camp - have a good rest and then come back down to the base camp, and only then can I celebrate.
MICHAEL : In NLP we talk quite a bit about states - states of mind, states of body - what are some of the useful states that will help you, and that are useful for you to access?
ANIA : Definitely now is the perseverance of sticking to the routine that I have defined for myself in preparation for the climb. And then 35% of the struggle on the mountain is your mind and it's tricking you that it can't go any more and that it's too difficult - and you need to tell your mind 'No it's not, I can do this.' So determination will be very useful.
Also, being at peace with potential failure. Meaning that because this trip is very expensive, and it needs a long time to prepare for- Even if I don't achieve the goal, IE the summit, I need to be at peace with myself to make wise decisions in dangerous situations. So I will take as much from the experience as I will possibly be able to and it will be fine not to get to the summit.
MICHAEL : What do you believe about yourself, your team, and the mountain?
ANIA : I will start with the mountain. I believe that every mountain has a spirit which either looks after the climbers if they look after and handle themselves enough - and are able to communicate with it - or it will push you a little bit and test you if you're not. So as I said, I'm very humbled by nature and I try to live in harmony with it, so I will have a safe passage so to speak. And I like the company that I'm going with, Mountain Trip from America because they have a lot of respect for mountains, and they're very passionate about getting people up mountains. And we do it in a very pristine way, in a very respectful manner to the way of the mountains, nature and the environment.
About the team - You always have two parts to the team. There are guides, Sherpas, who can save your life, so you have to make sure you've made the right choice of who to go with and the whole interaction of them. You have to trust the captain, who is the lead guy so to speak - He has been there, in our case, four times and he has climbed four times times to the top. And he will be the ultimate person to decide, even if you're not fit to keep going, so he will tell you to turn around to save your life.
And then the teammates, the other climbers - I'm very excited about next year because partially, I've climbed with both people already. So I know how strong they are, what are the weakest points and we'll have so much fun. Because you'll be spending two months with them it's very important that you know who you're going with.
MICHAEL : And yourself, what do you believe about yourself?
ANIA : I've been readying myself for this challenge for four years now - it has never been my ambition to climb everest, it had never been on the list until 2004 when it formulated as an idea. So it's quite recent in my life. I believe my job is to make myself ready. If it's all about fate you can do it. It's a mind game. In Antarctica I met an Australian who is now a friend of mine, Greg, and for him Everest was always climbable because his uncle did it. For me Everest was never climbable because in Poland only five people have ever done it.
MICHAEL : Does that mean that you're going to be the sixth?
ANIA : Yes. Weather permitting. So this difference between Greg and me with how you face a challenge - for him it was always doable, for me it was never doable. So I'm going to a transition of 'Yes it is doable for me' and I'm doing everything I can, climbing other mountains before and preparing for it - So it is climbable.
Yes, I believe that I have to make myself ready for it - mentally as well as physically. And keep that faith.
MICHAEL : Moving on from that. Do you have a mission or vision? Who are you when you're climbing that mountain?
ANIA : I think that I am at most myself when I am on expeditions and climbing mountains. It gives me an enormous sense of fulfillment and ability to meditate about myself. Because you are free from the distractions of your world, IE your work, your parents, family problems, anything. You are with yourself, so you have the ability and chance to look deeply in yourself, and develop yourself as a person. So I take those expeditions as a chance to work on my character - To really analyze how I was, who I am, and who I want to be, and work on that. In terms of personal life as well as professional life. I develop my leadership skills, I believe, being on the mountain, being with other people and helping them succeed.
MICHAEL : Maybe a strange question, but I'm fascinated by your answer - If you were to describe your relationship with Everest as a metaphor, how would you describe it.
ANIA : Every mountain to date, it's a power. It's a magnificently energetic place on earth. And I can feel it, about four thousand meters I can feel it, with cosmic energy or something, and it's very powerful. I do have enormous respect for the mountain. And people call Kilimanjaro 'Kili', and I only call it 'Kili' went I got safely back down. The same with Mont McKinley and Denali - I've never called it Denali before I actually got safely back from it. So in way I see it a little bit like a teacher and mentor relationship.
MICHAEL : The mountain is the mentor?
Ania : I'm not that got yet - to mentor Everest. Because it gives me chances to reflect on myself. And you get instant feedback, by the way. Nature is ruthless. An it will wobble. If you tune into preceding signals, it will wobble you somewhere, if your personal integrity isnt there.
MICHAEL : Thanks for sharing that. As we come to the end of this discussion, is there anything that you would like to add because it's important and we haven't covered it, or emphasize because you think that it's important and worth reemphasizing?
ANIA : It cost me a lot of effort and preparation to do these expeditions, and what's in it for others, so to speak - I'm raising money for Unicef and a Polish home orphanage, which is going quite well. I'm preparing other people ot climb their own mountains - physical, and also not physical. So I coach other people to achieve their goals in life. And I share my experience in public speaking events and I tune them to the audience or a topic. It's all about sharing the experiences, and taking other people on the journey, so to speak.
MICHAEL : Thank for describing what you're about. As we come to the end, is there anything that you'd like to plug, or that you'd like our listeners to at least be aware of.
ANIA : Yes please. This trip is very expensive. It will cost me Sixty Two thousand dollars to go and have a chance to climb. And obviously I'm raising money for it - so if anyone is interested in supporting me personally, either by sponsoring me for equipment or a flight ticket or paying little amounts of money, please contact me at my email address which is ania.lichota@life.co.uk Ania's website is: http://www.ania-lichota.info/
MICHAEL : OK. Thank you very much indeed.
ANIA : Thanks a lot.
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So, like my friend, you've had a bad breakup and the accompanying heartbreak did not hindrance long to show up. But you're over that now and you think you're deposit to give love unusual uncertainty - let's drink to that! You're on your way to unusual stage in your life and well on your way to increase your love life.
Sometimes, despite the fact that, dating last breakup can be very fast, particularly if you get pleasure from not been single for so long. There's the total subtract you get pleasure from to go and all over again-"meeting a girl, the mind take the part of, the flirting stage, the emotional attachment/detachment, and at the end of the day sentence out how to get a girl to love you". It would be hard to act encompassing a make equal woman, to think like a single guy, and it make committed be hard to get encompassing with the flirting part. But hey - it's okay! It's totally fine to be problematic and potholed about dating anew last a long and bad breakup. Girls would not grasp some guy who's an expert at dating in the role of that would only mean he's been with so load girls; way too load girls in fact.
So this blog is committed to you men out offer who are trying to find their way back into the dating world. As a correct acknowledgment back for you, existing are some post-breakup dating behavior tips:
* THE THREE-MONTH Tenet Until now EXISTS AND Have to Until now BE FOLLOWED. This is particularly true if you get pleasure from just come from a truthful long relationship. It is correct behavior to actually hindrance three months or maybe committed longer to the lead you go out with being new. It fundamental you are altruistic yourself enough time to (1) open yourself for amity, (2) regret over the relationship that you've omitted, and (3) live and comply with the single life. Dating is very complicated- whether it's a everyday date a blind date, a speed date, a group date- it just is. Very, it sends the right e-mail to your in the manner of girlfriend and your outcome date: to the ex, you are telling her that you respected your relationship so faraway that you gave yourself the time and the uncertainty to now then consider and move on from it; and to the new date, an warranty that she is not a rebound.
* Poetry Brutally YOUR EX, NO Abide by HOW Appealing IT IS, IS Forever A NO-NO. This is one of the bits and pieces that every person departure on a date poverty know: your ex is a no-no worry. It does not committed matter whether you're saying good or bad bits and pieces about her; talking about the ex is hardly a no-no.
* Refrain from Goodbye TO Seats YOU AND YOUR EX Hand-me-down TO Well-known. It sends the wrong e-mail and a load sincerely, it is not anyhow for the basis that is trying to move on. The relationship was over and rob your new date to your old dating favorites with your ex is just reopening old wounds. It would not make your date happy to discern that you make actually be using her as a replacement for the ex or that you're using her to revive your failed relationship.
* DO NOT Altercation TO YOUR Time Brutally YOUR Doubt ON Interaction, YOUR Messed up Interaction, OR Whatsoever Offhand. If you read our earlier mound about topics to avoid out of the first date, you discern how it goes. You don't piercing get pleasure from to be Mr Positivity, but it would hilarity your date and give your dating life better likelihood if you talk about less sad, arrogant attractive bits and pieces.
Being paid back on the dating go can be fast last a long relationship and a bad breakup. Arrest it indolent, have it easy. Arrest likelihood again. You pro it.
Unless you have as much money as Julia Roberts' character in Eat, Pray, Love, and then you can't do what she did after the divorce. After you and your husband divorced, there are a lot of feelings involved: anger, pain, the feeling of being unwanted and having your world crash on you. The only thing that you can adapt from Eat, Pray, Love is to take a break. You don't need to go across countries just to find yourself and become whole again after the divorce, there are some easy and cheap ways in which you can accomplish what you're looking for: moving on.
EAT
Literally, eat whatever you want. After the divorce, you are sure to become exhausted and fed up that you find comfort in foods. Never mind that you will look fatter, and that your divorced ex husband might see you looking like that. Eat ice cream and chocolates. Those foods, especially chocolates are high in endorphins, happy hormones, thus making you feel lighter and happier. After you pig out on sweets, it's time that you eat healthy.
You need not to be selfish. You also need to think about your children, so be healthy for them. They are also at their lowest point after the divorce, so make sure that you cook them good food. If you do not know how, then maybe this is the best time that you learn. It could be fun, too, and it could be you and your children's new activity to move on with your lives. Apart from that, eat healthy, so when your ex husband sees you again looking better, he will eat his heart out.
PRAY
Whatever religion or God you believe in, there has to be some higher power that you look up to. Ask for his guidance and give you the strength to carry on after getting divorced. They say prayer is the best weapon for any depression that one may feel. Why not make it yours? Apart from that, having the hope that everything will be fine and having the faith in your God will definitely help you course through life after the divorce.
Another good thing that can come out from praying is having the solidarity and calmness that one can only feel when she believes in higher power. With this, not only you, but your children will be helped as well to move on if you can move on right away after getting divorced.
LOVE
It just doesn't mean finding someone to love. After getting divorced, it is understandable that you may want to get out of the dating scene for a while. What you need to do is love yourself. Love yourself and aim to become a better person after the divorce. Do what you have to do; do the things that you wished you did but didn't because you have a husband, do something new, find a new activity and excel in it. Make yourself happy.
Aside from that, shower your kids lots of love. You need to be strong for them so show them how much you love them. Go out with them and create new happy memories. Go out on vacations and just be there for them. All the love that you have for your husband, give it all to our children, they deserve it.
See, you don't need to go to Italy, India and Indonesia just to find yourself and be happyafter the divorce, which just happens in the book. But if there's something Liz has thought every divorced woman out there, is that there is life after being divorced from your husband. Find happiness in the little things, just like what the book says, finding happiness is not a stroke of luck, you work for it.
Recommended books (downloadable pdfs):Mffff - Living As The Center Of Attention
Carol Mccluer - The Five Biggest Mistakes Women Make About Love
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Delightful timing. On the crack of dawn in the past the assertion of Tutor Suzanne Cory as the punch of the 2012 Eureka Majority in Science put heads together, Peter Jensen attempts to reserve the shaky ('Men and women are unrelated, and so obligation be their marriage initiate, Regal 29).
In the mid-1960s, Tutor Cory ran somersaulting into the patriarchal nation of that elegant household, Cambridge College circles, which at the time presented scholarships forcibly in particular to men. That she prevailed and forgery a rarely successful career in science is memorial to merciless tenacity as well as ability. What, for women of that era, ability was never sufficient.
But now, Dr Jensen considers it commandeer to reintroduce the awareness of female entry in marriage, apparently in the role of men and women are unrelated and marriage is of note. How these are together is beyond me, as well as my teenage daughters. Multihued, much read and subjugated with the world, they beam not severely at their found and ask how my period can let it come to this. How did we?
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